I just found out I am pregnant and was thinking about my job. I have a stressful job. I dont get along with my boss, he is a pain in the *ss. I am always busy at work and when I come home I complaint about everything to my husband.

Would this be not a good thing for my pregnancy? Should I consider stop working?

I’m 27 years old and I feel like I’m doing the wrong thing by have this baby, due to the fact that I have zero support and I soooo scared of doing this alone! I’m pregnant by a 39 year old man who I considered one of the closest friends in my life. We were friends for 3 1/2 years, but never in a romantic relationship. He was in a relationship with someone else the entire time we were friends and I had know idea until he called me one night sad over the broke-up. I always told him when I was in a relationship with someone, but I recently realized he wasn’t the person he pretended to be. Which doesn’t make sense, since we were only good friends and not friends with benefits real friend…well at least that’s what I thought. But now I realized he was waiting all that time just to sleep with me. He knew I was pregnant before I even had a clue and was cool about it before we were sure I was pregnant. He initially said some hurtful things to me once it was confirmed I was pregnant. Then he started acting like he wanted to do this together and be a family, but still said things that made me feel like he really didn’t like me, and I was right. After asking him a million questions recently he finally admitted that he doesn’t have feeling for me at all and I actually kind of get on his nerves. Now I know I can be a pain sometimes, so I can understand kind of getting on his nerves at times. The thing that I just don’t understand is, before we sleep together, when we were just friends he always act like he had feelings for me. Meaning he was always there for me not physically but emotionally, whenever I needed him and whenever he needed me, but never physically until 13 weeks ago. And now I’m pregnant, which is my fault for having unprotected sex with him. I trusted him and I honestly didn’t think he would get me pregnant since he knew my whole situation, but it does takes two, so I know that’s no excuse. I have decided to discontinue communication as friends/lovers/… and keep it strictly about the baby.

I lost my job of 4 years and had to give up my apartment and move back to my mother’s house which is stressful. My grandmother who is scitsofantic moved in about 2 yrs ago and we recently foundout she has terminal lung cancer. I was taking her to her doctors appointments but it became too overwhelming for me and she needs a lot of help. My younger brother also lives here who does and his girlfriend is also pregnant and she has more support from my family then I could ever dream of, honestly and neither one have jobs or income. But I do recognize I have some jealousy issues in that case.

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My husband and I recently started trying to get pregnant. I’m not pregnant yet but I do hope to be soon. While I don’t have anxiety about my body changing or the pain of labor or sleepless nights, what I DO have anxiety about is losing the baby weight after I have a baby. I’m not some vain person here, I LOVE food but weight is a struggle for me and I know it always will be. (I’m 5’8 and weigh almost 200 pounds now) I’m trying to lose pounds now before getting pregnant and I know that I have to change my eating habits for it to work for any legnth of time which I’m willing to do. What I’m really scared of is gaining a whole bunch of weight and not being able to get it off. I really want to be a Mommy but this weight gain anxiety is really starting to bother me. Any advice out there? Please share!!

My last period was July 23( my period is very regular). Of course my boyfriend and I have unprotected sex. Anyway for the past week I have had awful mood swings, horrible headaches, heat flashes and heartburn like every day. Also I have had cramps/ bloating, gas. I have taken Aspirin it does not work at all ( I took 5 already) and gas X/bismo and that doesn’t work. Could pregnancy signs show up that soon?
My last period was longer and lighter then normal. Me and boyfriend have been together for 2 years and we are happy with/without getting pregnant.

Is there any way to avoid or detect postpartum depression in advance? I am 34 weeks pregnant with my first but I was battling very severe depression over a miscarriage just a year ago, before I got pregnant with this one. I had pretty bad depression at the beginning of this pregnancy. Most days I am doing good, I just have the occasional depressed days..

Does that mean I’ll have postpartum depression? I want to do what I can to avoid or STOP it before the baby gets here!

I’m 8 weeks along and I’m still on Lexapro. They say not to take this into the 3rd trimester but I am wondering how I am going to deal with my depression if I go off of it? has anyone here experienced taking Lexapro while pregnant too? Have you stayed on it your whole pregnancy? My first prenatal appt isn’t until 2 weeks from now. Any answers from others with experience is welcome.

Thanks, T
I think I have decided that I will cut back slowly – first from 20 mg then go backward until I am down to 5mg. I’m going to talk to my doctor about this when I go see her on the 29th but I may see my regular doctor that prescribes it for me before then. Thanks for all who replied! – T

My doctors are completely aware of my depression. Together My OB and I decided that at the beginning of my 3rd trimester I’d stop taking it, and I don’t know what it was but I felt better then ever. At about 35 weeks all those 3rd trimester woes kicked in.Im always in pain I can’t sleep! Can’t breath. I’m miserable. I was no longer that glowing pregnant lady. And I’ve showing signs of depression. Now I’m 2 weeks away from giving birth and I’m starting to resent my pregnancy. (not my baby just the pregnancy) I’m afraid to say anything because I fear they might not let me bring my little boy home.I don’t know what to do… I don’t want to be pregnant anymore. If I asked for an induction because of my depression would that raise a red flag?
oh forgot to mention what i stopped taking was zoloft