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I have no choice but to get an abortion because it has become a life-threatening pregnancy and I have a little one at home I need to be around for.
I had manageable depression before this pregnancy, but since I got pregnant it has become unbearable. Life doesnt really seem livable anymore though I remind myself it is probably the hormone. While the idea of the abortion was very sad, I am at peace with the decision because I know I have no other choice if I want to survive.
Will the depression subside again once the abortion takes place? Do any of you have similar experiences with depression and abortion?
I really need to vent here…my friend just had a new baby and I had a missed miscarriage 3 years ago at 3 months pregnant. I just balled my eyes out the other night and I find myself wanting a baby more than anything right now. I really miss my baby and I don’t know how to explain it…its like my soul aches. I am not complete. It hurts…I went through major depression after my miscarriage but i’ve been doing better but lately I just feel myself slipping back into the grief process..i am beginning to get angry again when I had already made my peace with God. I am 23 years old and my boyfriend (who i live with) does not want a child right now and I know we cannot afford one right now…I just dont’ know how to cope with this especially since the child was not my boyfriends (it was my ex-boyfriends child)..he will not understand what I am going through. Well Thanks for listening to me.
My thyroid count is better than ever. But now i am sufferring from depression. My doctor wants me to go on anti depressants. I am weary on taking them, so i havent started yet. But i would love some input from anyone who has experienced what i am dealing with. Anti depressants and pregnancy????any opinions?
I am not with the father anymore becuase he has cheated in the past and just was not for me we would always argrue all the time we have a 4-year old daughter together as well he is a good father. I am so mad because I got pregnant now he is ignoring me when I call him and want to chat and asking him what he feels about this pregnancy his not happy he seems like he has moved on with his life he met someone and has been talking to her right after we broke up and that was just 3 weeks ago. Im going threw a depression becuase I already have a 4-year old daughter to raise and I just started my career as a law student and I feel like everything is going down the drain and I have no one to turn to for support. Any advice on what to do and how I can emotionally get through this?
We’ve been together 10 yrs. and all I’ve ever wanted was to be his wife and year after year and 2 kids later I had to basically beg to get him to ask me. When I told him that I don’t want to do it just because he felt bad for my crying about it and I want it to be something he wants too he said he does but I just don’t believe him. I can’t rely on my feelings and emotions because they are so out of wack right now due to the ridiculously stressful life I’ve subjected myself too, so 1 min he’s awesome and the next I wish I could just pack up and be gone, but it’s never that easy. I do suffer from depression and anxiety and I know I am not an ideal girlfriend but I bend over backwards and do flips for this man something that I rarely see from him. I put him through a lot with my mood swings and just plain ol psychoticness but I feel justified in my bad treatment of him because I feel like I’ve given so much of myself to him and his family without any regard for me and my feelings. In my heart I feel like I will never be his first priority and that his mother and sister will always come first and it makes me so sad and it really hurts to think that we’ve spent so time together and been through so much, I’ve slept in hotels/cars with him for 3 years, had 3 abortions because he told me the pregnancy was my decision and we really can’t afford to have children so I thought I was doing what he wanted me to do,
I wash his clothes,
clean the house,
take care of the kids,
pay the bills (which I have not been doing lately because I don’t know why I just get so stressed)
allow his mother and sister to live with us because they get evicted (3 times now more than 6 months each situation)
becoming more sexual
play taxi (at least twice a week I have to pick either him or his mother up after I just worked a 9 hr shift being up since 4 am and sitting in traffic for hours, the list can go on but I do love this man although I think he can be such an ass because if I complain about doing any of the things listed above then I am not being a team player and I wonder wtf is he talking about because I am the team!!! But on the other hand he is sweet, he used to make me laugh but now I’m always so mad his jokes aren’t funny, I know he is a good man and together we can make things happen but I am really scared that I will not be made a priority and that I will end up hurting myself if I continue to stay I just want some peace and to be able to have our place/space to really grow up I am 27 and he is 29 and neither of us have ever really lived on our own except for our short 6 month breaks when I decided we need to move and get our own. I love his mother and sister but I want them to have their own lives and home and let us raise our family together and stop being so selfish but will I ever really be #1 to him and if we get married will he realize that he is now our family LEADER and take that responsibility seriously or will I continue to be the underdog although I am putting out the most results someone please help me I am at a loss!!!
I put the details because I kind of need to vent also, I feel like an idiot when I try to talk to my friends or family because I don’t want to appear needy, I am currently in therapy to try and make some type of sense of my life and get it on track so I can be more productive for my children. Thank you all for even taking the time to read through all that and giving your advice I really appreciate it alot :0)!!
last addition, the reason I have to play taxi is because he and I are the ones with cars, his mom and sister’s cars were repo’d about 2-3 years ago and they have been relying on us to get around or driving his truck because I won’t let them take my car if it’s not work related.
I went off medication almost a year ago and my daughter is now 2 and a half ( I didnt get it diagnosed til she was almost 1). Anyway lately I have noticed I am getting more short tempered with her and feeling stressed a lot, I am not sure if maybe the depression is coming back because I am pregnant again or if I am just stressed out from being pregnant, in a strange town (my fiance is currently in another state too) and having full time external uni to do and not being able to do it because im pregnant, tired and dont have help with the child. Should I go see the doctor? Is it likely to come back in my second pregnancy?
Ok. If I would be pregnant, conception would of been a month ago. But I have menstruated since then. I suffer from occasional head aches(minor), being hungry all the time, and 2 panic attacks(mild) in the past month.
But I am also dieting, in school and dealing with a lot of issues with that, I’m in the process of moving out, having family issues, and i have anxiety as it is.
I cannot help but feel like every one but me is pregnant or trying to conceive with no issues what-so-ever. I was diagnosed with PCOS in June this year after TTC for well over a year. I try to feel happy for my friends with babies already or ones who are newly pregnant but as soon as I am off the phone or out of their site I break down crying and feel very depressed with my situation. I know other women are going through this as well and would like to know how you cope? How do you not feel immense sadness when just walking around in public you see baby bellies and babies everywhere. I am not just going to sit in my house all day until I finally get my chance at motherhood but the thought of having to tell one more friend congrats on the pregnancy makes me want to curl up in a ball and die. I know it sounds selfish to feel this way about my friends or random strangers but until you have walked in my shoes do not judge me for the way I feel. I also do not think my husband realizes how much this emotionally affects me. His most common response to a new pregnancy within our friends circle is so what good for them. I still do not know how he feels about our recent infertility diagnosis either, maybe that is his way of coping with it. I almost obsessively browse websites about pregnancy issues all day and watch every show about babies that is on. It is baby fever and knowledge of not being able to conceive within my time line that bothers me the most I think. I really just need to know how you ladies that are in the same boat as me cope with the day to day grind. Thank you for your consideratee answers in advance.
In January is when my obgyn plans on starting me on fertility meds. For now she has me on yaz in hopes of regulating my cycles. She did mention Metformin for controlling my insulin resistance and I have red a lot about clomid to help induce ovulation. It is just the wait between now and the day I finally get my positive that is killing me.
Hello, I am now 32 weeks pregnant (planned). At about 28 weeks, anxiety kicked in with a few panic attacks and loss of sleep. I am on Ambien now (which is completely safe for baby) and it gets me through the nights. However, I am feeling anxious all day still. I feel like I need to constantly be busy because I get so anxious just sitting/lying down. I can’t just relax my mind. I have trouble napping or just enjoying peace and quiet. MY QUESTION IS: Will this pregnancy induced anxiety go away after the birth of the baby? I have heard that hormones can cause this, so will I go back to normal later, assuming I won’t be post-partum? Experience? Thoughts?
