Are there others out there who feel depressed long after a miscarriage?
It’s been over a year now, June 23, 2005 to be exact that I lost my Cayden to a miscarriage. I used to be so happy before the pregnancy, I could bounce back from pretty much anything. Recently, I’ve began to notice that I’m not that happy person anymore. I’m tired, grumpy, feel like crying a lot (which I never did before), and worst of all, I feel like my 11 year old daughter is being deprived of her once happy mother (this thought alone puts tears in my eyes). Very recently I spoke to a friend who said she was going through the same thing, after having a miscarriage two years ago. She went to her doctor who told her she was having symptoms of depression. She is now on meds, and says she is doing much better. What I am wondering is if anyone else has experienced this feeling after miscarriage, and if so, has taken meds for depression with similar results. Will I be able to find that happy woman once again, or will losing my son continue to have this tremendous affect on my life.
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Yes. I’m sorry to hear about your loss. You should consider finding a support group in your community. If you contact a funeral director in your area, he or she can line you up with a support group contact. It’s always good to meet with others that have suffered a loss like yours. My mom and dad had a SIDS baby many years ago, and it still bothers them from time to time. The hurt may never go away completely, but it does get better.
Sounds like Post Partum Depression. Even incomplete pregnancies mess with our hormonal balance.
I expect a trip to your GYN and telling him/her what you have said here will set you on the right track.
my mom had quite a few miscarriages before she had me and she’s always told me that it was really hard for her to get over. she also had a miscarriage when i was seven and i remember her being sad for a while. basically, i think that it’s important that you let yourself grieve- it is a huge deal and you have my deepest sympathies. but if you’re feeling so down that your daughter is affected, i might at least talk to a therapist. be gentle with yourself but you do have a daughter to think about and it wouldn’t hurt to meet a few times with a therapist to see if there is anything that can help.
best of luck, and feel better soon!
Hello,
Yes, I have seen my brother’s wife going through it. We pulled her through the depression by simply getting her to alter her lifestyle. Here are some things that she began to do after the miscarriage:
1. She would now get up in the morning and perform yogasanas and light exercises. One family member would accompany her for a brisk morning walk for about 30 minutes.
2. She spent all her free time (after completing household chores) looking for hobbies that would interest her. In her case, she discovered that she liked playing a music instrument and also she loved being with children. We got her to join a music class, and we got her to sign up as parent volunteer in my child’s school. This ensured that all her free time was consumed in productive activities.
3. We got her to expand her social network. Earlier, she was happy with her small circle of friends. She actively sought out like-minded people in peer groups – in her music class, amongst the parents who visited the school she began volunteering for, with the people who frequented the jogging parks. She joined a local chapter of the Rotary Club, too, for this purpose.
I think it took her about 3 months to completely put the miscarriage incident behind her. In fact, thanks to the lifestyle changes that she went through, my sister-in-law is a completely changed woman! She is more mature, and life has taken on a new meaning.
Perhaps you could try out this technique, too, and advice others on it? Medicines could have side-effects, while this technique has none.
Hth, and all the best.
hey! i feel ya!! its been since April 7th,1999 since i had a miscarriage to my baby Jonathan.its been a living nite mere 4 me. it really bugs me on 4.7.99(the date) & on 9.28.99(due date)but GOD has gaven me 2 more wonderful kids:) i tryed 2 figured “Y” i lost my baby,even though that was my 4th pregnancy.so i’ve been pregnant 6x’s.i am doing a little better as days go by.i hope that u’ll b.able to find some happeniss & b.come a happy mom 2~u r daughter…
Sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage May 10th 1999 exactly 1 week before mothers Day and I was so heart broken I didn’t want to even get out of bed or do anything. And meds did not help me I wasn’t fine until I had carried a baby to term 3 years later and even then I started to get depressed thinking about the baby i lost what would it of looked like, what toys he would of liked. But now 7 years and 2 kids later I still get a little sad every once in a while but for the most part its ok.
I am young 20 to be exact so you may not value my opinion as much as others, but i have been through so much. I Lost my son paul when I was 5 and a half months pregnant with him. That was back on may 20, 2003. It’s been over 3 years and the pain has not subsided. I still feel like crying every day and I still feel depressed, but I did go to my doctor 6 months after I lost him and he too tried to tell me I was depressed and needed meds. I refused to take them as it is completley normal to feel upset when losing a loved one, especially your own child. I am now married to the baby’s father and we have been dealing with the sadness together for 3 years. It will never go away but talking about it does help. It took me a long time to relize that everything happens for a reason, all you can really do is accept what happened as part of God’s plan and know that your child is in a better place. Never forget it because that would not be fair to your child. You feel so much pain because you loved that child and the only way to stop the pain would be to stop loving the child and I know you don’t want to do that. It does take time but eventually you will be able to be the Happy wonderful mom that you were, sit down with your daughter and tell her how you feel and that might give you peace as well. I know that some of the best people for me to talk to about my feelings were my younger brothers and sisters ( I have 12 so there was a lot of support)because they were so inoccent and knew exactly what to say to make me feel better. Your daughter may be the key to you coming to peace with this, that can be special time you share with her and will make her feel honored that you could talk to her about it.
I hope this helps in some way!
My Prayers are with you