Boyfriend with depression-what can i say to him?
Wednesday, August 18th, 2010 at
7:20 am
Almost a year ago, my bf’s (now ex) gf had a miscarriage. All hes ever wanted was to b a father, so this really deeply hurt him. Hes had depression for a long while now, it comes and goes. And right now hes extremely depressed and just wants to hurt others or himself. He says its all he can do not to cut or even kill himself. I love him and care about him so much i just dont know what to do or say to him. Help please?
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Talk to him, be supportive, and if he gets worse you have to report him. It’s for his safety, your safety, and the safety of others. Medication also helps. it doesn’t make you weak either. =) Also, he needs to realize that things happen but that he can always try again. They can work on this together and can make it happen.
Read: Help Me, I’m Depressed: How To Effectively Help Your Family Members, Friends, and Colleagues Dealing With Depression by Jody Ehrhardt, & Talking to Depression: Simple Ways To Connect When Someone In Your Life Is Depressed, by Claudia J. Strauss and Martha Manning, from your bookstore, & enter “depression; partner” in the searchbar at amazon.com for more media.
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Dr. J. Cannell, at http://vitaminDcouncil.org is now recommending 10,000 iu of vitamin D3, ( NOT VITAMIN D2! ) daily, for depressed people.
The Vitamin D Newsletter
April 21, 2010
More letters “Vitamin D deficiency is but one cause of major depression; there are lots of others. However, I now recommend that anyone struggling with depression should take at least 10,000 IU /day with frequent 25(OH)D blood tests to assure levels of at least 100 ng/ml and to monitor for toxicity”.
Those with the lowest levels are 11 times more likely to be depressed (www.mercola.com).
A deficiency in calcium can also cause depression; vitamin D3 is needed so it is utilised, and good levels of magnesium ensures it is deposited on bones, (preferably with some weight bearing exercise) where it belongs, rather than in blood vessels.
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Wow. Just continue to let him know that you love him and you’re there for him. Try to spend a lot of time with him. He probably has a lot going on inside, so he most likely wants someone to just listen and understand. Just listen to what he has to say, be gentle when responding to his emotions. Try not to be too harsh with your words, but let him know hurting himself isn’t the answer. Overall, just make sure he feels loved, he’ll thank you once he pulls himself out of it. Good luck.
Cutting himself, killing himself and hurting others will not bring this child back to life.The sooner he realizes that, the soon he can gain some closure.
He will be a father..in time.It was not time for him to be a father.For some reason, that little soul was not meant to be here yet.He should take advantage of this time to get his life straightened out so when he does eventually have kids, he can be a good father to him.hell, he doesnt even know for sure if it was his kid or not.
someday he will have his baby.for his depression, he should seek some kind of loos counseling…there should be loss forums online for those who lose their children.