I dont know whats happening. I love my husband, and have known him since 2000. We have a gorgeous baby boy who was born on Dec 5, 08. Since then everything is hard, and we have been having a bad time.

I had a c-section which brought me down horribly. I went thru a lot of pain and am still suffering from post partum depression. I tried breastfeeding, and failed at it just when our son was 3 months. I wanted to breastfeed at least 6 months, but I had milk problems, i didnt have enough, so got frustrated and gave up on it I cry sometimes over it! but I am better now.

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I am not with the father anymore becuase he has cheated in the past and just was not for me we would always argrue all the time we have a 4-year old daughter together as well he is a good father. I am so mad because I got pregnant now he is ignoring me when I call him and want to chat and asking him what he feels about this pregnancy his not happy he seems like he has moved on with his life he met someone and has been talking to her right after we broke up and that was just 3 weeks ago. Im going threw a depression becuase I already have a 4-year old daughter to raise and I just started my career as a law student and I feel like everything is going down the drain and I have no one to turn to for support. Any advice on what to do and how I can emotionally get through this?

I am a 21 year ol working mother.My marriage is on the rocks.We were married for 2 and a half years n i have a 3 month old baby.My husband is a dominating person n he even used to hit me.He even hit me during my pregnancy.My father-in-law ia a patient of accute depression as this runs in their family,I had a miscarriage because of one of his fits.my husband has not been supporting me or my child for the last 7 months.I am living with my parents who have been supporting me n my child all this while…my husband did come to see our baby when he was born but did not bear any medical expenses.In fact he made demands for gifts from my parents.
My in-laws used to make dowry demands…they are greedy n eccentric people.I do not want to live their nor do i want my child to have such a bad atmosphere to grow in…my husband has threatened to take my baby away legally..though i dont earn as well as him but i am working…i have the support of my family in raising my child..
n my husband n all his family members are working…they only leave a dog at home…please i dont want to loose my child…can he get custody of the child?
We live in India…i apologise for not mentioning it

Ok, the question may be worded wrong! I’m 21 weeks pregnant with a little boy at age 19. The father and I were not in a relationship when I found out I was pregnant. We talked things over and he basically left the decision up to me. I never felt abortion was an option, and adoption isn’t what’s best for my son. I have tons of family support. Mind you, they don’t approve but its too late now type deal lol.

He is full Korean, he moved here (US) when he was 5. Once he told his parents, he quit talking to me (except for arguments at work, no I can’t keep my mouth shut when my child’s father is making smart a$$ remarks about me….) ANYWAY, they disowned him, and since then I have had no support or contact with him. He claims he’s waiting for Jamie to be born, as he has gone through this before and the baby wasn’t his. Did his parents disown him because I’m white, or because of the premarital sex/pregnancy?

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I delivered a baby 3 weeks ago. Her father and I split as soon as we found out about her. During pregnancy we kept some contact; his participation was minimal and he didn’t seem to interested for a long while. After the first U/S he became more interested and started calling more often. We had a few ups and downs; sometimes he was distant but got upset if I didn’t keep him informed. Emotionally was very rough on me. He put up a good show for the two weeks before her birth and that week after (when I was at the hospital). He called every other day and seemed to be really excited with the idea of her coming. He signed all the paternity paperwork voluntarily and put her on his insurance. He even was attentive to me, but I can’t say that he was leading me on. He pleaded with me to let her have his last name too because he didn’t want to feel “left out”. However, for the other two weeks after her birth he’s only seen her once a week for an hour at a time. He wants me to keep calling him to tell him how she’s doing and asking him for things to bring over for her, but dodges talking about a set amount for child support. I have tried to get on this subject a couple of times but he avoids it like wild fire. I’m picking up for every tab and doing all the work since she’s with me all the time.

He’s recently divorced and his x took him to the cleaners. I know this. I know he’s financially in bad shape but why should I show compassion to somebody who couldn’t show it to me and left me when I needed him the most. I understand that he was just coming out from a long time relationship and we were both rebounding from our previous marriages. The pregnancy was not planned or intended. I was told I couldn’t have children; however, I was on birth control to deal with hormonal issues and other medical problems. There’s no trapping situation here. I make better money than he does. I don’t want to have to fight and I don’t want to take him to family court because finishing off what the xwife couldn’t is not my idea of revenge and quite honestly i don’t like the sharing of the houses that the court will impose, but how do I get accross that he can’t enjoy his “rights” without fulfilling his responsibilities and that an occassional pack of diapers doesn’t cut it. IMO He’s acting more like an uncle than a father.

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I’m almost 17 weeks pregnant and consistently worried about the stability of my growing familys’ finances. I had to leave my night shift job a few weeks ago due to severe exhaustion and ‘morning’ sickness; I had hoped to work throughout my pregnancy to save money.

My husband is graduating college this month, and works part time at a job based on tips (his income fluctuates). He does not seem as worried as I am about our future financial situation. I’m so anxious about what kind of jobs he will be able to find when he gets out there next year, if it will be enough to support our little family. This is an unexpected pregnancy, and though I’m thrilled at the idea of being a mother I’m less than enthused about continuing to live in his parents’ beach house (rent free) because we can’t afford to go it on our own. I appreciate his family’s help, but I feel like I don’t have anything to call my own which is entirely depressing. Has anyone else been in a less than perfect financial situation when you became pregnant? How did you cope with the depression and anxiety?

I’m 36 weeks pregnant today with my second child. My first is 16 months old and I had no problems with that pregnancy other than the occasional emotional outburst. No depression afterward, but I did leave my husband 2 months later and we’re in the process of a semi-peaceful divorce. No custody battle, property problems or child support issues, but he’s not the father of this baby and he doesn’t want to pay for a paternity test to prove it, he wants me to do that. Not the issue at hand but I think it’s a factor in my emotional problems.

For the past month or so I’ve been feeling frantic but I can’t pinpoint a reason for it. I’m desperate to do something but I don’t know what it is, and I think my stress is ruining my relationship with my boyfriend. I’m also worried about money after the baby is born.

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I have been pro-abortion all of my life. but never would have thought of actually testing my beliefs personally.

i just found out last night that i am 4 weeks pregnant. i am currently 20 yrds and taking anti-depressants, anti-anxiety and anti-psychotics for multiple reasons such as manic depression agoraphobia, self mutilation, GAD, for just a few.
my decision has been to termintate the pregnancy. not only for my self but for my fiance (who is behind me 100%) and has two years of college to go untill he gets his degree.

my choice is not easy i have been upset and crying the entire time, but i am mentally unable to take care of a baby. i have been in the hospital many times this past year for failed suicide attempts and for the self mutulation. both me and my fiance is living with my parents and mooching off of them for food and even cash every now and again. we cannot even sustain a life for us let alone a baby.
why i did not choose adoption. if i am off my meds i get very depressed and suicidal. my anxiety peaks and i have many panic attacks. carrying the pregnancy to full term i dont doubt will kill me, and the child.
this is a decision that i have already made for my self, my soon to be husband and our children that we plan to have when we can support our selves. And very importantly when my depression anxiety and self mutilation is in better control. i am hurting my sister very much (only other soul that knows what i am doing) for she is strongly anti-abortion with 3 little ones of her own. yet i feel very confidant when she told me that she understands that my medical issues must be taken care of prior to having a child.

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If people see a young girl with a baby…they look at her with disdain…or ridicule. I always thought that was funny..because her OTHER option is abortion..and if she goes through with that..what has she accomplished? Living in misery with her shame, not being able to tell ANYONE, having people bash her for that?

Then there are other women in general who are completely RIPPED apart about their pregnancies or abortions. As if it’s NOT bad enough being a woman without being pregnant…now..we hold the blame for pregnancy and ANY decision regarding it….yet SOOOOOO many women I know are abused and exploited…they are pressured into an abortion and violated in the WORST WAY POSSIBLE. No one lends them a hand when they need the support. It’s not enough to say “She should have been strong…things will work out…adoption…etc.”. I don’t think some people understand how mentally vulnerable you are when you are pregnant…I know….It was AMAZING how vulnerable I was…looking back on it..I couldn’t believe how weak I was…it’s SCARY..especially when you don’t have ANY support AND someone pressuring you. I have seen the strongest women taken advantage of. By family…men…clinics…etc. But what makes it the absolute WORST is that the people who bash women are…OTHER WOMEN. How sad is this? It breaks my heart. Women go through SO much & we waste our time being hateful and hypocritical.

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Is this normal? Are my hormones going crazy? I feel like I’m in a blur. Also, I think it may be post-partum depression. I feel like I have no support hardly and I had issues prior to being pregnant mentally. I think I suffered from seasonal anxiety disorder. I am not going to commit suicide and might have considered it during pregnancy but am now past it, whether it is better or just pushed away, I’m not sure. Does anyone have any insight into this feeling or bluriness and just overall loss of appetite? Might I have depression or is it hormones?