If people see a young girl with a baby…they look at her with disdain…or ridicule. I always thought that was funny..because her OTHER option is abortion..and if she goes through with that..what has she accomplished? Living in misery with her shame, not being able to tell ANYONE, having people bash her for that?

Then there are other women in general who are completely RIPPED apart about their pregnancies or abortions. As if it’s NOT bad enough being a woman without being pregnant…now..we hold the blame for pregnancy and ANY decision regarding it….yet SOOOOOO many women I know are abused and exploited…they are pressured into an abortion and violated in the WORST WAY POSSIBLE. No one lends them a hand when they need the support. It’s not enough to say “She should have been strong…things will work out…adoption…etc.”. I don’t think some people understand how mentally vulnerable you are when you are pregnant…I know….It was AMAZING how vulnerable I was…looking back on it..I couldn’t believe how weak I was…it’s SCARY..especially when you don’t have ANY support AND someone pressuring you. I have seen the strongest women taken advantage of. By family…men…clinics…etc. But what makes it the absolute WORST is that the people who bash women are…OTHER WOMEN. How sad is this? It breaks my heart. Women go through SO much & we waste our time being hateful and hypocritical.

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Is this normal? Are my hormones going crazy? I feel like I’m in a blur. Also, I think it may be post-partum depression. I feel like I have no support hardly and I had issues prior to being pregnant mentally. I think I suffered from seasonal anxiety disorder. I am not going to commit suicide and might have considered it during pregnancy but am now past it, whether it is better or just pushed away, I’m not sure. Does anyone have any insight into this feeling or bluriness and just overall loss of appetite? Might I have depression or is it hormones?

On May 2, my 17 year old sister gave birth to a beautiful baby girl named Juliet Rose. I love her more than I can express.

My sister has had a history of problems, and she was diagnosed as bipolar and depression last year. All through the pregnancy she was up and down, never being able to make up her mind on what she was going to do. My dad and I did our best to support her no matter what. She finally decided to keep the baby.

Three days ago, the day after he 18th birthday, I woke up and she was gone. No note, nothing. She just disappeared, and left her new born with us.

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Since the beginning of my 2nd trimester i have felt very sad and depressed. I don’t think about hurting myself or anything, just really sad. Like i don;t know what i am doing. How do i prepare for this baby? I am scared to talk to my doctor for fear that she would call social services or something. I had that happen before when i was a child, went to a therapist said i was depressed so they called social services. I have always suffered from depression since i hit puberty. but never medicated. I don’t know if its possible to have Post par tum depression while pregnant, or just my hormones. another reason i don’t want to talk to my doctor is that i was raised very old fashioned by my grandmother who taught me not to say anything about depression to anyone. Just deal with i. my question is, is it normal to feel depressed and lonely during pregnancy, even with a husband around to support you??

Let me give you some background on me: I just turned 24, I have 2 children, and I’m going to take classes this fall. I was going to start classes several years ago, but I had several problems with depression, anxiety, two high-risk pregnancies, and various other health problems. I am in better health, my children are a little older, and I have a pretty good support system. The thing is, I’m not a very social person-I never was, and I’m kind of worried about how things will go when I start. I mean, I know that there are people well into their 40s and 50s that start school, but I feel that I lack that self-assuredness to feel okay once I am around all of these people that will be younger than me. So-for anyone that started college later in life, can you please give me some general information on how your first semester went; if you felt out-of-place at all, and how you got over that? Genuine responses, please. I’m honestly a little scared of having this experience.
Well, as I briefly stated- I have a problem with anxiety. I worry that people will look at me, and (even though I can’t buy cigarettes without getting carded) will think ‘Damn. She’s kinda old to be here.’ Which, I know is illogical-but that doesn’t make me stop thinking about it. As for being some social butterfly…that ship has long since sailed and sunk. I have a 2 and 3 year old. I barely have time to shave my legs, much less join a wet t-shirt contest. I have no real interest in making friends (although it may be nice, and prove worthwhile later), or joining social groups-but things like study groups can be helpful, and sometimes people take my being quiet as being snobby, which I’m not. I’m just afraid that my anxiety over the age difference is going to push me off the course I’m on. If I can get over that, then I think that lowers the possibility that I will have some fit of anxiety and end up quitting.

I have been battling this addiction for over 4 years now. I started out taking a 1/2 of a 500mg vicodin once a week, just when I got a really bad tension headache. I quickly realized I felt “good” when I took them, so gradually started taking more often. That continued for about a year & a 1/2. Then I got pregnant. I was able to stop cold turkey, however I did take a total of about 5 pills throughout my whole pregnancy when aches & pains were really bad. I have always had a high tolerance for pain medications, so otc tylenol DOES NOT help me. So the minute you deliver a baby, guess what, they prescribed me a shiny new rx for darvocet. So since the day my baby was born in Aug. of ’07, I have not had 1 clean day. I have extreme depression, & little to no help or support from my husband. The pills make me feel not so sad, & gave me the energy I needed to “handle my business”. Over time my habit has increased tremendously..& I’m now taking at least 20 10/325mg Norco daily. I do have my own rx, but that lasts me all of 4 or 5 days, so then I start my “hunt” for a score. I buy 4 different peoples rx’s & am spending over $700 monthly on just the pills. Not to mention that while I’m on pills I smoke a pack a day, drink red bull & Starbucks like there’s no tomorrow, & have manic shopping habits. I have NO self control. My habit is costing my family everything we have. We can longer pay our bills, & my kids don’t have a mommy. The energy the pills used to give me went away a long time ago, now I barely have the motivation to shower. I can’t live like this anymore.
I have hit my bottom, & I HAVE to quit.
We can’t afford rehab, & my husband makes to much $$ to qualify for any special “scholarships”…so basically I’m screwed. The other night I decided to talk to my G’pa about helping us to pay for a detox program. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. My G’pa thinks so highly of me, & to tell him that I’m a drug addict was so painful. He has bailed us out sooooo many times financially in the past, he just can’t afford to pay for it. I should’ve asked him for help a long time ago…but…woulda, coulda, shoulda isn’t going to help now.
So I basically “told on myself” so now I have no other option BUT to quit. Since I can’t afford to pay for rehab, I have to do this at home. The plan is, my mom & husband are going to take a week off work & basically nurse me back to health…but I’m SCARED!!! I’ve heard so many horror stories.
I’m writing this in hopes that someone out there has some advice for me. I’m terified of the pain, diahrrea, nausea, bone aches, insomnia…all of it. I’ve read all these “recipes” that are supposed to help with wd symptoms, but believe it or not, I’m scared of taking drugs…I know funny right. I would like to be able to do this with ibuprofen, tylenol pm, immodium, & hot baths….but is that just ridiculous for me to even think that possible?? I don’t want to use suboxyn, or valium or any other substance to wd because my addictive personality will become addicted to them..I just know it.
If anyone out there has any advice for me..PLEASE help. I’m planning to do this the week after Thanksgiving, I would like to be back to my normal self by Christmas.

Hello everyone, I am 19 years old and need the opinion of some women who know a bit about the female body. For the past two years I have been chronically losing weight and now I am an all time low of 78 pounds, and although I am only five feet tall, this is the skinniest I have ever been and no longer have a “female figure”; it’s tearing me up. I have placed myself on very strict “over-eating” diet, and forcing myself to eat as much as I can, fattening foods especially, but the weight stays off. The reason I suspect this is a female problem is because I also have pretty bad PCOS that makes it hard just to get up in the morning sometimes. I also have almost constant headaches and unexplainable depression. I shouldn’t have depression, I have more support than the Brooklyn Bridge when it comes to my family and friends, and yet I always feel so miserable.
I also have constant lower back pain…
As well as this, between 10-15 times a day I get this horrible stabbing, “twisting” pain in my right ovary, and only the right one. My pain goes from a 0 to a 100 in one second and the pain lasts for about five to ten minutes. It isn’t a rupture or anything because the pain is NOT constant, but it happens everyday.
So headaches, depression, extreme weight loss I can’t control, PCOS, lower back pain and ovary pain… what do you think?
I am getting a few procedures under anesthesia done this week to determine what is wrong with me hopefully, but before that, I just want you guy’s opinion.
And just so you know, I have an IUD in so it can’t be pregnancy, I had the doctor test me anyway and it was negative, and I also had them test me for any STD’s and I was clean. The doctor said it sounds a bit like Crohns Disease or something like that… Should I be worried? I’m only 19 I shouldn’t have to deal with this.

Hi girls (and guys)! This is going to be long, so please bare with me. I am currently 32w1d pregnant with my 2nd child (it’s a boy!). I had my daughter at only 18 and married her father. We did our best to make things work, but we just were not meant for each other so we have been divorced and seperated for a little over 2 years. I have been dating another man for 2 years now. We actually just got engaged in April. We talked about having kids in the future, but had an unexpected pregnancy instead (i was on the pill). While we were scared of what was to come, we both embraced it and enjoyed this entire pregnancy. He has come to every doctor’s appointment, every ultrasound, showed off our 3d ultrasounds more than I have, is always rubbing my belly, and sings happy birthday to the baby every week. What I am trying to say is he is very hands on and helpful.

Everything was fine until Tuesday. He decided to disappear for the night where he slept in a park just because he did not want to come home. I saw him the next day where he was at his family’s house and we talked for about an hour. He told me he wants to be in the baby’s life, but he can’t be with me anymore. He can’t be with anyone. I got no further explanation than that. He said there is nothing I can do to change his mind.

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Hi girls (and guys)! This is going to be long, so please bare with me. I am currently 32w1d pregnant with my 2nd child (it’s a boy!). I had my daughter at only 18 and married her father. We did our best to make things work, but we just were not meant for each other so we have been divorced and seperated for a little over 2 years. I have been dating another man for 2 years now. We actually just got engaged in April. We talked about having kids in the future, but had an unexpected pregnancy instead (i was on the pill). While we were scared of what was to come, we both embraced it and enjoyed this entire pregnancy. He has come to every doctor’s appointment, every ultrasound, showed off our 3d ultrasounds more than I have, is always rubbing my belly, and sings happy birthday to the baby every week. What I am trying to say is he is very hands on and helpful.

Everything was fine until Tuesday. He decided to disappear for the night where he slept in a park just because he did not want to come home. I saw him the next day where he was at his family’s house and we talked for about an hour. He told me he wants to be in the baby’s life, but he can’t be with me anymore. He can’t be with anyone. I got no further explanation than that. He said there is nothing I can do to change his mind.

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I’m 21 and I have been out of work and school and barely able to drive for the last 8 months for my panic disorder/ severe depression…I went to the hospital last night because
i felt really sick and found out I was 5 weeks 4 days pregnant..I had no idea because I was still having my menstrual..I’ve been on ativan for the last 8 months b/c I havent found a med for my panic/depress. and its keeping me somewhat stable until I found a med so I could get my life back..I’m so scared and idk what to do everyone saying I should get an abortion so I can get myself better but I really dont believe in that but I dont know what to do..I wouldnt be able to support the baby right now b/c im unable to work due to my severe panic and stuff..
i smoke and i’ve been taking ativan this whole time and didnt know I was pregnant and im worried its harmed the baby and I’ve been on it for 8 months and I know coming off of it causes seizures..any advice would be greatly appreciated..thx