I had a missed miscarriage at 8/12 weeks, 7 weeks ago. I am getting married in three months and my husband to be constantly talks about the wedding night and how we will try for a baby , I have nearly lost all the weight I gained and my wedding ring wont fit and I said lets get it altered and he said no cos you will be pregnant before you know it. To be honest I am totally put off pregnancy the thought makes me feel sick. they found no heartbeat and I had to be given pills in hospital and I saw everything and the pain was horrendous. I cant imagine ever wanting to try again because I dont want to go through that again and all the worry but it did not happen to him and he wants a kid straight away. how can I tell him and will I get over my fear of miscarriage? I would love to have a kid but I am so scared of it and I said I dont even want a scan untiI I can feel it move everyday but right now I cant see me wanting any children – well I got a son from a previous relationship and he wants one of his own. Pregnancy before this was a happy time but not now pregnancy now to me means sadness and misery and tears and worry I cant move on I dont think. My mother told me to get some help but why I go to work everyday where I work with y1 children I adore my job to bits.

I get these waves of sadness to the point of where I cry and cry for no reason what so ever, it happens whenever I am home alone. But I don’t see why I get so upset over nothing when I am so happy with my life. I live with my amazing boyfriend that is my whole world, we’re having a baby together (I know it’s not hormones from the pregnancy, because this would happen pre pregnancy as well) and everything is great… could I have depression??

I did not get a baby shower because MY family lives 3K miles away and there was so much jealousy and drama over pregnancies in my husband’s family that caused problems throughout my pregnancy that I was uncomfortable having a shower thrown for me when the only guests would be his family – WAY awkward. I had not lived in my new town long enough to have developed any friends close enough to throw me a shower. My MIL would have thrown one but she would have driven a long distance and really her kids (other than hubs) were the ones I was at odds with AND the only guests other than his sister, mother and dad’s girlfriend would have been the brother’s inlaws. My decision not to have one wasn’t because I didn’t want one but because it would have been painful and awkward. Nonetheless, that this was the lesser of the two evils (not having one) has been a source of great pain for me to the point that now that the sister is pregnant and having showers I am so resentful. There is a lot to this story that I can’t type here because it is just too long and involves a lot of jealousy over my getting pregnant first which is so sad and rediculous.

Every time I look in my son’s baby book and see the absence of a shower I feel depressed and miserable to the point of bitterness.

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My husband and his sister are going to visit family this weekend for an appreciation party for his cousin and his other sister has a big play….. and it’s a 4 hr drive. I was supposed to go but I do not feel like going on that drive(we go so often) plus I’m trying to save us the dog sitting fees cause we will have to go again soon. We have 2 dogs and it costs alot to have the dog sitter here so I said I will stay plus the trip will be hard on me. He insists that I’m going but I’m not…anyway the whole point is that I am super depressed. Since last night I have been so sad and crying(all day today too) and I’m sure some of it has to do with hormones. Sorry I need to vent but m question is what do I do to pass the time while he’s gone. What can I do by myself to keep my mind occupied..he will be gone for 2 days. I am just beside myself with sadness and sooo depressed and I just need a few suggestions on how I can get past these two days without going nuts. Btw I am 6 mths along.
Thanks everyone… i guess I am so emotional right now cause of the hormones. I appreciate your wonderful suggestions. I’m never without my husband except for when he’s working so this is a first. I guess I have to get over it.

My newly married and youngest daughter is 6 weeks pregnant. I am unhappy because she lives 2000 miles away and I’ll have rare to no participation with them for this joyous event.
Her husband seems immature in that he makes his own family all-important in their lives, while heavily diminishing our participation and interest. His future plan is to permanently live close to his family, this being 3000 miles away from us.
My daughter and I have a sweet relationship, but she seems to be okay with prioritizing his family over our own. I am devastated that I’ll have no close relationship with my new grandbaby, as well as not to be near my own daughter during her pregnancy.
I want to be excited about the baby, but I know my son-in-law plans to involve his family more in the child’s life than in ours, so I’m not sure I can live with that kind of heartbreak!
I’ll be visiting them at Thanksgiving and want to be happy for my daughter. Your comments? How can I hide my real sadness?

I have taken like 4 pregnancy tests and they are all negative so I don’t feel like its going to happen.

I usually have a very regular period. This month its late. Why is that? Did that happen to you>

This month we are going to do the IUI. So for the next few weeks I want to diet like crazy (I am overweight) to see if I can get some of this weight off and maybe that will help.

Anyways, thank you for letting me vent. My sleeping husband here besdie me has no idea the sadness I feel. But, I know you guys do.

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I am VERY excited for my first child/son to arrive in the first week of May. I can’t wait to see him and hold him. But another part of me is beginning to feel quite sad that my pregnancy is almost over. I was extremely sick for the first trimester and part of the second, and even now, I still get sick a few times a week, sometimes a couple times a day. It’s been rough in many ways. But I LOVE feeling my son move around inside of me. I LOVE having him with me everywhere I go, and knowing he is safe, warm and protected. I LOVE that he is my own little honey in there right now. So part of me is dreading the big day. I feel that I may be quite sad, and suffer some post partum depression.
Am I the only one feeling this way? And if not, how have any of you dealt with this sadness?
Thanks for all the good answers. I am 27 Weeks, 5 Days pregnant, so I do still have a little ways to go. And I’m sure like many of you, as I get closer, I will be so uncomfortable that I will want him born right away. I do think it scares me to think of having him in such a crazy world, and that may be part of why I love knowing he is safe and warm in my womb. I guess I will just enjoy it while I can and look forward to the new experiences that will come after he is born. I’m just glad to know that I’m not alone in feeling a little sad about it ending.

I wish you all very healthy baby’s.

we only found out we were 7 weeks and the excitement kicked in soon to end as it was ectopic,i was hospitalised as it ruptured and i had an laparoscopy,my left tube was removed..im feeling alot of emotions at the momentanger,sadness,lonliness…i know my partner will want to try again someday as having our own little baby was wat we really wanted, but im afraid as there is a chance it will happen again and i really feel i cannot go through this again.has anyone else been through this an had a succesful pregnancy after wards? your help will be greatly appreciated thank u
(please be nice)
tanx vmuch for your answers girls xx

I was just wondering whether i would be able to get some life advice here, i guess i should start from the beginning. I had a miscarriage at 4 months last october and it hasn’t been until lately i don’t think i have got over the emotional side of it. I guess because i was so excited and happy about having a baby its now made me want it even more because of that. I also had a miscarriage in march 2008 and another this year in march, Both times i didn’t know i was pregnant.
In some ways im thankful that i lost my babies last year as i was in an abusive relationship, but after meeting my partner in november last year things have been great, i was happier than ever, we have since moved in together and got to know everything about each other.
My partner told me at the beginning of the relationship that he wanted children too and i didn’t say anymore about it, but we had an open conversation a couple of weeks ago and he told me he didn’t know what he wanted in the future and that he didn’t want kids. This has broken my heart and i even thought of leaving him, I mean, what is the point of being with someone who doesn’t want what you want right? I’m so confused, i’ve since kept my thoughts to myself, and its killing me, I’m so depressed and i keep crying to myself, he does notice the sadness in my face and asks me if im ok but i can’t bring myself to talk to him about it, i just think that if i talk to him about it ill lose him anyway, i don’t want to pressure him into having a future that he doesn’t want, we both deserve to be happy, but he has already said that he feels im making him choose between me and children or nothing, i really don’t want to lose him or hurt him but a life without having children is something i can’t bare. Everyone is having children lately and even my best friend has discovered that she is 7 weeks pregnant so i cant even talk to her about my problems because she is so happy about her pregnancy, Please help!! x

I had an ectopic pregnancy last month 1/17/10. I was only 5 weeks pregnant, I was really happy to have my second child. Has anyone gone through this and have got pregnant again? I asked my doctor when to try for another baby but he did not answer. So do you know when can I start trying again? I had surgery but did not loose any of my organs…The doctor didn’t find the pregnancy in the tubes, abdominal wall, ovaries… the pregnancy was treated with medicine..I really need help to get over this sadness in my heart… I have heard that with the injection the doctor gave me named methotrexate I have to wait even more than six months to try to conceive..that is since he gave me two doses… I’m really worried and sad… Thank you…