hi, i am 19 +1 week pregnant for the last month i have been extremely tired, i cry at the littlest thing that upsets me and my mood has all of a sudden got bad which i never suffered with in my first 3 months of my pregancy. i have got constant worries that there is going to be a problem with my baby mainly down syndrome as i havent had any of the scans or tests done for it. my partner has recently been made redundant so we only have 1 income and i earn too much to get help with benefits so we are struggling. i work shift which isnt helping as i’m up at half 4 in the morning which i found hard even before i was pregnant but never struggled as much as i am. i finish wok at 2 and by half past im fast asleep on the sofa for an hour then back in bed for 8 to make sure i get enough sleep to get my through the next day. i’m finding it really hard to concentrate or even move about too much.
work isnt helping as im constantly on my feet which gives me backache and stomach ache, i’m also eating foods that are making my sick as i work within a food factory and my boss isnt really listerning to me when i try and talk to her. but i’m mainly worried about the tiredness as i have to drive and the worrying. i feel like i have so much going on in my head that i just dont know what to do but cry and i even then start to worry that my stress is going to harm my baby which i REALLY dont want.

please help
i very miserable helen

Hi i’m a mother of 1 and about to have our second child (due date in a week) I’ve allways been a very happy stay at home mum and housewife but recently, over the last few weeks i’ve started to feel very depressed by my life, feeling like it’s going nowhere and i’m useless.
My husband works and i don’t have any friends close by so i spend everyday alone with my 3 year old and as much as i love her company i feel very lonely.
My husband doesn’t know how to react to this sudden change in my character and honestly neither do i.
Has anyone else felt this way? did it go away on it’s own? please give me advice on what to do i feel stuck in this life!!

I never felt depressed when pregnant with my first child, I rarely cried and I was in a better mood than usual, but my hormones are a wreck this time around. It’s like a freaking roller coaster- I felt great for 2 days- and then for the last two days- i have been balling my eyes out. I hate the way I look and feel and I am dreading wearing shorts- meanwhile all my non pregnant friends are losing weight and looking good-I’m paranoid that my husband thinks I’m ugly- even if he’d never admit it… I was in the process of losing weight and working out when I got pregnant, and because I have had so many miscarriages in the past (4 total) I was told not to over do it- plus I am so tired all the time I feel like even walking wears me out. I haven’t gained any weight on the scale, but my belly is growing and I feel huge and bloated and I don’t know why I care- I am happy to have another baby- but why am I feeling so down and negative? I guess it’s hormones, but I didn’t feel this way with my first child, so this feels wrong. Does any one else feel this way?

I am 22 weeks along, and wonder if anyone else has experienced this. Before becoming pregnant, I had been on Prozac and Klonopin for GAD and depression. I am 27, and have had these disorders since age 14 (GAD since childhood). None of it is due to enviromental factors, I had a great childhood and life but internally I was always a wreck for no apparant reason. Since I became pregnant, almost all my symptoms are gone. I feel fantastic, and I am on no medication. Has anyone ever heard of this? Now I am wondering if my problems were caused by either a hormone or vitamin deficiency (I take prenatal vitamins and my iron pills daily). I am so relaxed and peaceful, and everyone around me notices as well.
What do I do after the baby comes to stay this way?

I’m currently 40 weeks and 1 day pregnant, for those of you not too hip on the timing of gestation, that means i’m a day overdue, no biggie.

Anyways, my mother called me yesterday while i was at my prenatal appointment and left a drunken message about how she’s in detox and she’s sorry, and she’s not going to be there for my baby’s birth, or a while afterwards while she compleates the program.

I’m 22 years old, and this isn’t the first time she’s skipped out on me when i need her the most, when i was 12 she had me institutionalized, i stayed in a residential treatment center for 3 years. when i was “ready” to be released she opted to instead ask that they release me to a grouphome, all the while telling me she loves me and didn’t really want to but that she “just can’t handle me”.

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I have been suffering the worst depression for the last month. Its to the point where its affecting my marriage and job. I go to the doctor next week for my next prenatal appointment. Can my doctor prescribe me anything for it? Is there anything safe? And is it normal to suffer from depression?
Thanks!!

drugs? I really don’t want to put any “drugs” in my system. If there’s a natural way, I’d rather do that. She also suggested that I start taking PreNatal vitamins? I have to go get blood drawn next week to see if I have this…even though I don’t know much about it?
I do have symptoms she said like fatigue, depression (occasionally), weight gain (only a few pounds though), I’m always cold, etc. and I think my grandmother has it too??
Any ideas? Thanks.

Well I’m a single mom, college fulltime and work and a load of other stuff, I have a hair disorder, where when I get stressed my hair will fall out, so I went to the doc today to get medicine to help with the stress, she told me to just keep taking my prenatal vitamins, I told her I wanted to be treated, so she put me on a antidepressant, this to me seems wrong. I love to wake up in the morning, etc, I would consider myself highly stressed but not depressed. Any opinions? Please and thank u. No negative advice please!

So, here is my problem.. I’m always very anxious. And worried. And I always feel “sad”. Always. Its like it never goes away. I always feel like crying. Even when I’m out with friends and trying to take my mind off of everything. I just can’t get properly happy about everything. I love that I have my 2 year old son, I love my husband and being with him, and I love that we’re having baby boy #2.. And I’m happy about all of that.. But I don’t think I’m actually happy like I should be. I’m not saying that I don’t want my life anymore or anything like that. I don’t really know how to explain it.. I’m happy but at the same time I’m not. All I want to do is just sit.. and be alone.. and cry..

But I’m not sure if its me, like if its real. Or if its just because my husband is in Iraq, so I’m just constantly worried about him. He has been gone since September but I really don’t remember feeling like this the whole time he has been gone.. And its been over 4 months already.

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Warning: The news story in this link is highly disturbing, but true….

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090727/ap_o…

What do you think our mental/prenatal health systems could do to protect babies of mothers with mental health issues? If you search “mom kills baby” a hundred diffrent stories come up…. how many babies have to die these gruesome, horrible deaths before some laws are in place to protect them?

I think that babies shouldn’t be sent home with “sick” mothers… the mothers have to stay in a supervised atmosphere or an institution in order to be with her baby/babies. that way she’s under supervision, her baby is protected, and mom gets the help/medication she needs until she shows PROOF that she’s well.

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