Depression during last month of pregnancy?

4 Comments

1. Brit R says:

   November 15, 2009 at 5:01 pm

   i think you should speak with you doctor and see a counselor..with all that stress and hurt..i think there a very good chance it will become ppd

   i hope the best for you.and congrats on #2
2. Gail D says:

   November 15, 2009 at 5:42 pm

   There is a high possibility. The time to do something about it is now. Tell your health team immediately that you are beginning to feel depressed. Of course this is hard on the toddler, your baby, your husband, but most of all you. Let’s just focus on you.

   As soon as you can go to a health food store and buy a high quality prenatal vitamin and mineral. While you are there get some red raspberry leaf tea. You can drink a cup a day and it is safe for baby and you. This woman’s tea will help to restore some of your lost mineral supply from the previous birth, balance hormonal swings during pregnancy and help to calm and relax your system.

   Look up the doula association on the internet for your city. Many doulas-in-training will work for free for their first births for the experience. This will give you some great company before and during the birth. Then you don’t need everyone else as much. Yes, the first baby gets so much more attention and excitement. Forgive your parents for that. I am sure they don’t know that you feel it is important for them to be around. You can create a new support system for this birth that suits you.

   I think some nutritional support, some talking with your health team and a cup of day of the tea to help with hormonal mood swings that are a normal part of pregnancy. I am sure your partner does not know how to help you or what is wrong. You will have to come clean and tell him what is going on with you and that you are looking for solutions so that he does not think he is the problem.

   You will see, you will straighten this out quickly and feel good again with some help. You are smart to reach out for assistance. I bet you are a great mom. They are all very lucky to have you. Please look after this as soon as you can as your family needs you to be well. If mom is not well, the whole family tends to fall apart. There will be plenty of resources in your community to help you feel better soon. Best wishes, G
3. Erin2009 says:

   November 15, 2009 at 6:13 pm

   I agree with the previous posting, you should definitely talk to your doctor about how you are feeling because feeling this way now could definitely lead to post-partum depression once you deliver. I also agree that seeing a counselor may be a good idea. I know lots of people shun the idea of going to a counselor, but from personal experience, I think counselors can be wonderful. They are an impartial party, and they can offer suggestions and point you in a helpful direction.
   I definitely think that you did the right thing trying to communicate with your husband about how you are feeling. Not saying that it changes anything, but keeping communication open is so important.
   In order to make yourself feel better, find something that you really enjoy doing, whether it be reading a book or writing, or spend a day getting a manicure/pedicure…just something for you, and dedicate a set amount of time to it a week. A lot will change once the baby gets here. Its important to find ways to make yourself happy, even if its just for a few moments.
   I think that its very important to appreciate the good moments we have in life. Life can be so overwhelming, and its easy to point out all the bad things or things that we don’t like. But take time each day to point of the good moments of each day, even if its only 1 or 2 things. It kind of puts things in perspective.

   Good luck with everything, and I hope that you start feeling better.
4. Jessica says:

   November 15, 2009 at 7:07 pm

   I’m 39 1/2 weeks and I can TOTALLY agree with you! My family wants NOTHING to do with me, but when he’s coming they all want to be here and be ‘loving and supporting’. I’m the only one that is cleaning right now and I’m chasing after a 22 month old. My husband comes home after work and is POed because there isn’t anything cooked. Well I have to clean EVERYTHING because the baby is coming and we’re having a home birth with like 20 ppl coming. I don’t want ANYONE here, except my hubby, daughter, doula and midwives, but if I say anything the family is going to be ‘snubbed’. Not to mention my father died two weeks ago and my step mother is acting weird along with my 18 year old sister who is living with her and they both completely ignore me.

   I don’t think it will be postpartum after the pregnancy. You’re getting really huge and you’re starting to feel REALLY pregnant and are likely just wanting the whole thing over with. I do too . I suggest do something fun with your toddler for the next month and make it routine. That way they get a piece of Mommy before the new one arrives. My husband too ignores me and is constantly going on about his boss’s daughter. Like I NEED that RIGHT now. I know he’s not with her like that but mostly admires her, but still. Yesterday I got the joyful task of re-caulking our shower because it’s leaking. I’ve also had to fix a toilet and do the cat litter because he’s too d**n lazy. I also make him sleep on the couch now because I can’t handle his snoring anymore. Either way, it will get better for you. Within a few weeks you’ll have a new baby to hold and love and if you feel that you may suffer from postpartum, give your doctor a call and let him know. He may be able to give you something.

   Just remember that you’re hormones are really raging now, preparing for birth, you have an extra 30 lbs that you will lose, your toddler will learn to help you out and the lack of sleep makes it all that much worse. Aside from that you’ll still be you Email me if you’d like to just talk!