Having strange thoughts about my pregnancy and baby?
Here is the problem, I am 36 weeks pregnant and up til recently I have been very excited about having a baby but that seems to be changing. Recently I have been having feelings of regret over the pregnancy, and sometimes I feel like I don’t want my baby at all. I know that sounds horrible to say and believe me, I don’t want to be feeling like this, I just can’t seem to help it. I have told my doctor about it and he thought it was just pregnancy related depression so he put me on medication about a month ago. I still haven’t noticed a difference though and I am worrying that it will get worse after the baby is born. The last thing I would ever want to do is take my feelings out on my baby. Has anyone out there ever had similar feelings? And if so, did they get worse or better after the baby?
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During the earlier parts of pregnancy, you’re excited at being *pregnant* not necessarily about the new person. Now that you’re almost done with the pregnancy, you’re starting to realize how much work it is to be a mother. That’s normal. Also, if you feel the medication isn’t working, tell your doctor now so he/she can help you. You may or may not be depressed, but nothing bad will come from talking to your doctor some more.
This is very common. When I was around 32 or 33 wks pregnant w/my daughter I had similar feelings. I didn’t want her, I felt like she was going to be a burden on me, I regreted her, any negative feeling you can think of I had it towards her. When I finally had her and I held her in my arms all those negative feelings went away and I felt nothing but love and pride and happiness! She is 5 mo and 3 days old now and I fall more and more in love w/ her every single day! I think it was just the nerves of having another human being to care for and depend on me that scared me. Now the only regret I have is feeling like that while I was pregnant. Hopefully after you have your beautiful baby your feelings will change as well! Good Luck!!!
and Congratulations!
I feel for you big time,
I suffered a little postnatal depression after one of my pregnancy’s but with time it went away, I still cared and loved my baby I just cried a lot.
My friend felt the same way towards the end of her pregnancy it was her first and a lot of it she realised once bubs was born was more nerves, she was worried she could’nt care for her baby, that she was.nt going to love it like she should. Once her baby was born all her fears went the minute she held her baby and realised that she did have instant love ect.
My advice to you would be dont stress over how your feeling now, there are so many hormonal changes happening, try and enjoy rest relax your time you have left till bubs is born. Go out for dinner go to the movies ect
See how you are after the birth if you still have strange thoughts keep in constant contact with your Dr.
Im sure you will be fine, it is just nerves building up to the delivery birth ect
Good LUck#
I think its just a phase you are going threw in the pregnancy.
Once you hold the baby all your feelings will change, you will most likely feel happier and excited again before the baby is due. I knew several moms who have felt this way at some point in their pregnancy.
I felt this way early on as well. Ill tell you my story, and i’m sure people will judge me, but oh well. I am almost 17…fairly young, and I did end up getting pregnant with my boyfriend (we are in a serious relationship) anyways, I was pressured into what I ended up doing two days ago, by my family.. and that was to “take care of it”. I can’t tell you how upset I am. I remember I was having bad toughts when I didn’t feel good and was having mood swings, that I really wasn’t sure this is what I wanted… but now I would give anything back to have my baby back in me.
I hope your thoughts about the baby changes soon, trust me, you really will feel absolutely amazed like its the best thing that ever happened to you once you hold your baby in your arms.
congrats on the baby by the way, and good luck:]
i’m 18 weeks pregnant. I fell pregnant immediately after my husband and i married. The problem is i sometimes feel deppressed and regret having fallen pregnant almost everytime my hubby seems a little distant. Or even when i’m working and he’s not helping – which is most of the time. I hope i won’t resent my baby. Has any other regretted being pregnant at any time of their pregnancy?