HELP my sister has abandoned me and her new baby?
On May 2, my 17 year old sister gave birth to a beautiful baby girl named Juliet Rose. I love her more than I can express.
My sister has had a history of problems, and she was diagnosed as bipolar and depression last year. All through the pregnancy she was up and down, never being able to make up her mind on what she was going to do. My dad and I did our best to support her no matter what. She finally decided to keep the baby.
Three days ago, the day after he 18th birthday, I woke up and she was gone. No note, nothing. She just disappeared, and left her new born with us.
My dad and I have no idea what to do now. We have enough money to care for the baby finically, but what about emotionally? My dad works a lot, so basically it would be me taking care of the baby, and I’m only 15. I just really don’t know what to do now. I think putting her up for adoption may be our only option, but I think it would kill me to have to give her up.
Help!
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Keep the poor babyyy, what a mother………
Give it a couple weeks before you decided if there’s other family to help too. If not think of what is bast for the baby and if you can adopt her out without the mothers permission.
dont give the baby up. you and your dad will regret it in the future. family needs family. dont abandon her. Her own mother already did.
I think the best thing to do is to put the baby up for adoption, to a family who can support the baby financially, mentally, emotionally, and the baby will be stable. You need to live your teenage years good without being forced to be a parent. You should focus on school and a career. I understand this is your niece/nephew but really it is probably best. Best of luck to you all
keep that baby.
Im not sure if you could give her up for adoption anyway, because the mother technically has custody im assuming.
Are you members of a church or do you know any retired people who could babysit while you are at school or something.
maybe talk to some people you know and they have a stay at home mother or something.
people are giving, especially when it comes to babies. you dont want the baby to be tossed around in the foster care system.
you are only 15 yrs old and you know it is not right for you to have this responsibility. this is a very tough decision you are going to have to make but in all honesty if this was me, i would never have the guts to give a baby up like this especially becasue i know that i am the only one that can love him or her that way , and will always be there for them because i know what they went through. have you tried contacting your sister?
It sounds like your sister is having a lot of issues and maybe she had a change of heart for a while but I think if you give it some time, she will come back. At that time, you can talk with her about getting help for her problems and what to do about the baby. If you do something now you may regret it later. This is a huge responsibility for a 15-year-old to handle and I don’t want to put down your sister because I don’t know how severe her problems are but I think it’s wrong that she left such a huge responsibility, but even more than that, a huge blessing and joy for other people to take care of even though you are family. Is there another woman in the family that could help you take of the baby? I sense that your mother isn’t part of the picture but maybe you have a grandmother, aunts, or a family friend that could help you take care of this child for now. Don’t give up and things will work out.
the mother might just need a few days to get around having a new baby.No just leaving isnt that answer buy maybe she thougth if she just left she wouldnt hurt anyone. You sound very mature. The baby needs a loving home and if you and your dad are prepared to do that then you will provide the baby with a great start in life. If you pout the baby up for adoption she will have no one.
I’d say wait a little longer. She may come back. But you defenitely need to be thinking about a long term plan. If it wont work for you and your father to keep the baby, you may need to look into some sort of adoption plan or foster family.
In the end, this baby isnt your direct responsibilty, but you do need to figure out a way that it can be loved and have half a chance to have a normal childhood.
I am so sorry. Good luck
you can’t put up someone elses baby without their permission. so basically you gotta keep her. reason i say this is because if she comes back and her baby is gone she can take you to court for adopting out her child without her permission. and you can go to jail if you do this. so you need to find a better option.
you need to go out and look for her. why didn’t you call the police? if she ran away you can call the police. and warn them that she is unstable and ran off. and also this baby needs her family. so you gotta keep her. it will help her better in the long run.
Awww Im soo sorry your dealing with such a tough decision. Im impressed on how grown up you are trying to be the bigger sister. I don’t think you nor your father can give the baby up since your sister is 18. If anything you would have to report her missing but then dyfs would get involved it might straighten her out they could help her with parenting programns and for her emotional distress… If she still leaves then eventually the baby would go into foster care… But taking care of her responsibilities for her won’t be much help in the long run Good luck let me know how it turns out…
if i was you, i’d speak with someone that you trust to help you with this big decision.
If your sister has a history of problems, then even if she does come back, a yr or two yrs from now, the same thing will happen !
talk with someone at your church or a guidance couselor or even the baby’s doctor !
Don’t abandon this child like her mother has. She will only grow up wondering why her whole family abandoned her, so do the right thing and keep her. Your sister might come back one day, she may just need time. She may be afraid shes not good enough for the baby. Have you tried looking for her? Are sure shes run away? You never know she might be in a hospital bed somewhere.
Don’t give up, do everything you can to help, even if it means your dad having to change his hours. You will find a way, but you need the support from your family, so make sure you don’t do it alone and share the responsibility with others.