how bad is stress for pregnancy?
Thursday, December 31st, 2009 at
6:39 pm
I’ve been trying for 3 years, with 2 miscarriages and I’m finally pregnant. I’m only 5 weeks now but I’ve been under alot of stress. My husband wants to fight about everything lately. How do I make him understand it’s not right for him to be such a jerk and stress me out.
And how bad is stress for pregnancy?
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Stress is extremely bad for pregnant women. Stress does bad things to your body so I would advise you to try to relax and take it easy! Especially with your history of losses
Well, in any pregnancy stress is unavoidable really, it’s just better for there to be as little of it as possible, explain to your husband, you’ve both been trying for a baby for so long that it would be horrible to put this baby at risk because of arguments, both agree to bite your tongues for a little while or to walk away from arguments
Well, stress probably isn’t *wonderful* for pregnancy, but I’ve yet to meet a pregnant woman who hasn’t been stressed–especially during the first trimester. We have so much to worry about: a new pregnancy, a future baby, health concerns (especially when you’ve had such difficulties conceiving), and regular life worries. So do take comfort that stress is normal and unavoidable, in certain doses. But at the same time, you may want to take steps to limit the stress you do have. Try some deep breathing exercises, baths, lying down and focusing on positive thoughts, yoga, nice long walks, etc.
You might also talk to your husband about your “stressing about stress” concerns. Wait until you’re both in reasonably good moods and then talk to him calmly about how the new tension in your lives makes you worry more than normal and would he consider (with you) different ways of coping with arguments. Don’t accuse him or anything, and try to implicate yourself in the problem so that he doesn’t feel totally responsible for the stress and so that he can feel equally involved in its solution.
Finally, if it makes you feel any better, I was more stressed during my pregnancy than I’ve ever been (I had to take an extremely important set of exams for my PhD… and they were held 3 weeks before my due date!), and I had a beautiful, healthy, happy baby girl… it doesn’t seem as though the stress got to her at all!
Congratulations with your pregnancy and good luck for a stress-free first trimester. I wish you all the very best.
You can’t tell your husband how to behave. Maybe you should double check your behavior around him and see if you’re doing things that are setting him off.
Most people don’t fight about everything unless they feel their partner is not treating them right.
Go seek a counselor for a few sessions and smooth out the wrinkles. Who knows, maybe he’s freaked about becoming a dad.