how much does it take to get it ?
I am pregnant with my 3rd pregnancy. The person i was with for 3 plus years and i had a conceived a child relatively at the beginning of seeing one another. it was agreed after talk about certain lifestyles and the changes that would be needed to stay together to bring up the family i had thought we wanted. No drugs, cooperation no substance abuse period. trust and whatever the hell else was to make the most of a relatively functional family. Things never really went that way i became sick with depression in my pregnancy and it became worse the longer it went untreated my child was just over a year b4 my doc finally diagnosed me and treated me. and that was also after an abortion due to circumstance with the person i was with and then closely after found was having an inappropriate relationship via text and email and whatever computer correspondance. I crashed so hard. The stress from being pregnant and thrown into a life i wasn’t quite ready for but was trying to transition as best as i could with the fact that the other suppose to be at my side was to selfish in there own ways to work and be along with me like promised. I felt betrayed for so long tried counseling individually and together till we were told that together due to the lack of effort on ones particular behalf not to come back. we struggled and fought and it seemed as if i tried hard to keep things together as they tried so easily to stir the shit per say. And succeeded. Left alone many a time to deal with things. Then as i went back to work and worked extremely long hours things got worse because they had a feast or famine job, here was a lot of time i was left to take o/t to keep things going. however we ended up meeting my family over seas my distant family and the trip seemed well. after a bumpy begining. we got home and shit hit the fan again we were over as of christmas afternoon, as they walked out the door. 10 mons later after fighting and emotions fly they finally started settling for me after a mini break down. off work and the returned feeling relatively better. they had bought themselves a house after 8 mons or so, and took a job some mons b4 out of town. Camp work where they see there child less than a week a month. and because i allowed myself to be intimate with him i am now 2 mons pregnant and a vd. And possibly twins. Found out he was sleeping with others. No i have not slept with any one but him. drunk unprotected sex now i suffer because there is no thought process in the male genitalia. I am messed and at first thought i could handle another baby. and at least i only have one a hole to deal with rather than 2…… haha. Well this is the main prob i have just been notified that my once secure is no longer secure they r closing the company. I hae no problem re educating myself but i am not sure with 2 kids by myself with absolutely no support. I don’t know wwhat the hell to do i never wanted ever to be faced with another possible termination it absolutely destroyed me and the person that i was with just wants to be good fing friends. no one will tell me what i should do i appreciate it but seriously i have no flippin idea what to do and afraid to make the wrong decision. help.
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Eyes wide shut:
First of all you should have never had sex. Especially while drunk, either party. You already have one child and now another one on the way. If you don’t think you can handle two kids then give the baby to a family that can not conceive. Why isn’t the father of your first child paying child support? Take him to court to get it! The guy that had the inappropriate relationship did not even care about you, he is a loser. And you should be glad he is not in your life, because things get worse not better. The way I read what you posted sounds like one of you has a drug problem Etc… If that is the case you, my dear need to get your life straightened out and put it in order ASAP!
If you need it, if not – disregard it . . .
If you go to a Planned Parenthood clinic that has a low-income program it can be as cheap as 100$. If you tells them you have no job, no money and no support they will likely have you pay the minimum for the procedure and get donations to cover the rest. 1-800-230-PLAN (1-800-230-7526) to find the Planned Parenthood clinic nearest you. If you are underage it will mostly likely be free.
You have the choice between the pill (which can be taken up to 11weeks, at home or at a friends house) or the vacuum method (in clinic procedure). Personally I used the pill method so I could be at home with my husband but some women want to have the surgical, so it’s done and over with when they leave the clinic.
You will be financially screened – usually this goes on the honor system, weight/height taken, blood pressure checked, pricked -fingertip- to check for rH factor and anemia, you will receive an ultrasound or sonogram to determine gestational age. You may be asked if you want to view the image, this is up to you. You will receive antibiotics, anti-nausea tabs and pain meds. Take them ALL. You must finish at the very least your course of antibiotics. Follow all aftercare instructions and go back to your after care appt. This last step is vital, you must go back for your aftercare appt! Abortion begins a new menstrual cycle. You should have a regular period in 4 to 8 weeks.you should have the option of receiving birth control – again this will most likely be free, take it and use it correctly.
If you are underage you may want to check this site out to see about parental consent laws and whatnot. http://www.sexetc.org/state *Even if it says you need parental consent, you don’t. Call PP and tell them you cannot tell your parents; by law, a judicial bypass must be available to those minors who just cannot get their parents/guardians permission. A judge signs the parental consent acting as a de facto guardian.
Some state medicaid program do pay for it, use this link and figure out if your state covers it. If they do, you can go to “welfare” office and get emergency coverage and the state and taxes will help pay for it. http://www.ourbodiesourselves.org/book/companion.asp?id=20&compID=64
If you have any more questions or want/need to talk about it drop me an email.
It is entirely possible to have an abortion and not feel guilt because you knew it was the right thing to do.
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~Pro-Choice Momma; Have had an abortion and I have a 10 month old daughter . I believe in protecting my daughter’s choice.
Abortion: There is a Consensus
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsSQiazUvgo
Ps – As for others who would judge you, this is your business and their opinion don’t have to mean anything to you. They are strangers after all, who don’t know you or your situation. I hope you heal well.