How to deal with Pregnancy & Depression?
I’m 21 weeks with my third child. The past couple of months have been pure hell. I cry for no reason, feel worthless, and don’t wanna do anything anymore. I am basically scared of everything. I am even scared to drive now. I went to the dr. Thursday with a major Anxiety attack and the doctor just told me I would have to wait until my pregnancy is over to treat it. I hate feeling this way. Lastnight I cried for over an hour. I want to do things with my kids but I can’t bc of the Depression / Anxiety. There are only a few things in life that I can remember that actually made me happy. My kids births, getting married to the love of my life, and finding out that I was pregnant with all. I can’t go 4 months with this. I will be put in a mental hospital.
What makes things worse is that my 11 yr old son talks back to me and doesn’t respect me. He plays his step-father and I against one another and I usually give in, making my husband mad at me. I just give in so that I will not have to listen to the complaining. He doesn’t like his stepfather and he has been there since he was 2. He doesn’t like him discipleining him. I just wish everything would get back to normal. All this stress is wearing me out and taking a toll on me. I just want some help. I have cried out to everyone for help and no one seems to listen. They just think its hormones and that I am crazy. I am so scared that I will lose this baby bc of the tremendous stress, depression, and anxiety. How can I get help and get my family to understand that I really need the help?
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Depression and anxiety are biochemical conditions, so you may not be able to avoid them altogether if you’re prone to them. But taking care of yourself emotionally can help ease your symptoms and keep your spirits up.
• Take it easy. Resist the urge to pack in as many chores as you can before the baby comes. You may think you need to set up the nursery, clean the house, or work as much as you can before you go on maternity leave, but you don’t. Pencil yourself in at the top of your to-do list. You won’t have as much time for yourself once the baby’s around. Read a book, have breakfast in bed, or go for a nice long walk around the neighborhood. Choose something that makes you feel good. Taking care of yourself is an essential part of taking care of your baby.
• Bond with your partner. Make sure you’re spending plenty of time with your partner and nurturing your relationship. Take a vacation now if you can. Do what you can to strengthen your connection so that once the baby comes, you’ll have that bond to rely on.
• Talk it out. Air out your fears and worries about the future with your partner, friends, and family.
• Manage your stress. Don’t let frustration build up in your life. Find ways to take care of yourself emotionally. Take breaks, get plenty of sleep, get some exercise, and eat well. If you find anxiety creeping in, try taking a pregnancy yoga class or practicing meditation.
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Your question put tears in my eyes. I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. I was majorly depressed and suffered from anxiety for years. My personality changed and I didn’t want to leave the house, I was afraid of crowds and I cried a lot too. Nothing gave me pleasure. I wasn’t interested in anything.
I tried GPs and endless pills. Nothing worked. The turning point for me was to check myself into a hospital. I just went to Emerg and told them I couldn’t cope. The put me in the hospital for two weeks. They did tests, put me on meds, and I got counseling and help with coping strategies. Now I am feeling better than ever and we’re pregnant with number one!
I strongly suggest going to different doctors until you find one that takes you seriously. What you are feeling isn’t “just hormones.” it is depression. And depression isn’t your fault, and major depression is not something you can snap out of, or just work through. It’s an illness like diabetes is an illness. It needs treatment; psychotherapy or even meds that are safe to use during pregnancy.
People in general don’t understand about depression, unfortunately. If you have a friend that understands, hang onto them, because they are hard to find. Depression is something that doesn’t really make a lot of sense, even for us who are going through it. Maybe bringing your hubby in to a session with your doctor will show your husband how much you are going through. Mine didn’t understand at first.
He’s awesome now.
Find a good psychiatrist; if you can’t, get a new GP. This is vital. You can always go to Emerg. If you feel like hurting yourself or worse, call 911.
Other advice: do things that bring you pleasure. As much as you can. This fights the depression. Fight the urge to isolate yourself if you can. That only makes it worse.
I am so sorry you are going through this. I know it’s agony. Rest assured that you can and will get better. Keep pursuing medical care.
Good luck and congratulations, I wish you the very best.
Your doctor should be able to address your anxiety and depression. I would seek a second opinion. There are anti-depressants that you can take while you are pregnant. Your doctor should be on your side. A lot of people cannot understand what you are going through unless they have been through it themselves. It is not something you can just get over. Like you cannot just get over heart disease or asthma. Try to explain it to your family that way. Sorry I hope you feel better soon.
Most important thing to do right now is pray pray and pray some more. What you are feeling is somewhat normal. You need to talk with your husband and let him know what you are feel and why. You have to communicate with him first.
Stress will cause a m/c but let’s not think that way. Take a few deep breaths, find you a nice quite place where you can be alone. Take your bible with you and start to read. Just open the book God will guide you in the right place.
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I am going through the same thing. My last pregnancy, I believe it was just my hormones. This pregnancy, I’m a little over 6 months along, and the stress just keeps hammering down heavily. You can take this stress, it’s not good for you, but you can do it. I cry all of the time for no reason, sometimes it’s the hard-can’t breath cries, to the few tears all throughout the day type.
My 5 year old daughter has been nothing but a brat since August when school started. She tugged me around making me believe that kids were beating up on her and all kinds of stuff, when it turns out that she’s the big bully, and she’s getting beat up on because she runs up to much bigger girls and yanks their hair, and they turn around and rip her hair out and scratch her. She does it anyway. So…I’m stressed, about a million things. My doctor said that these things and my hormones are making me miserable. Every little thing will get to you while you’re pregnant, but you have to remember that, even if it feels like it’s something else. Things will get back to normal.
If I were you, I would slam my bedroom door shut, and lock it let everyone deal with each other. That will keep the stress off of you. Even if you need to go stay with someone, away from your family, if that’s what it takes, do it. They need to know how you feel. Keep your ground, when your son does that, just ignore him do not give in, or ground him from TV. You can do this. I don’t ever want to do anything either, you’re not alone. If it takes you taking your family to a counselor, do it. If you need anyone to talk to, email me, you can gripe as much as you want to me lol. Put your foot down and get your family back on track, they can’t hardly make it without you and you can do it. You may start feeling better in a month or two, especially if you yell at your family a little. Good luck, and hang in there!