I had a miscarriage three weeks ago and I’m still feeling overly down, am i now suffering from depression?
I was 22 weeks gone when I lost my baby, It was an overly painful experience and something that i know will be with me for the rest of my life. However I’m not moving on at all. The miscarriage was 3 weeks ago and I’ve become a complete emotional wreck. I’m crying for the most part of my days, and im not sleeping or eating much. I was meant to go back to work but on the morning of it i had the biggest panic attack and found myself curled up in a ball in tears for hours unable to move.
My partner thinks I am suffering from depression as i have mildly suffered from it for most of my life but have never been diagnosed with it, or taken anything for it. I went to the doctor and was told that it was just normal and i could be like this for another 3 weeks.
Does anyone who’s actually been through this know if it is normal. I feel like my whole life has ended and i just don’t know how to kick start it into going again. My partner was heartbroken at the time seems perfectly fine now and doesn’t understand why I can’t carry on. Any advise would be more than welcome.
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Let me just tell you this, guys do not understand at all. I had a miscarriage but a lot sooner than you did, around 6 weeks. I was like you are for about a week. I just sat at home and stared off into space. My husband was sad but he didn’t seem to care. He is like it happened for a reason, lets put it behind us and move on. Easier said than done. They don’t feel the changes like we do.I finally went back to work but I still cried every day. It was a very hard time for me. If I would of lost a baby at 22 weeks I think I would be the same as you. I wouldn’t want to eat, drink, or so anything else for that matter. I’m so sorry for your loss. Also everyone goes through a loss like this differently so no one can say you are normal or not. It is just how you are dealing with it.
I’m sincerely sorry that you’re going through this. The hormones in pregnancy can cause your emotions to feel like they’re on a roller coaster, and pregnancy loss can bring out these emotions and even more, especially if the pregnancy was wanted. While it’s normal to experience feelings of grief or loss, if these feelings continue and/or begin to interfere with daily life, the “blues” may be something more serious such as Postpartum Depression or PPD. There are several professionals you can talk to, if you’re experiencing more than just the “blues”, such as your ob/gyn, your primary care physician, a licensed clinical social worker at a community mental health clinic, or a psychologist. Sometimes partners don’t quite understand what’s going on, how to react, or what they can do to help. Gently let him know that you need his support and suggest things can do to help out (such as drawing a bath, fixing dinner, helping with the house chores, feeding a pet, etc) Give yourself time to heal and take gentle care.
I am really sorry you had to go through that…i can’t relate but my sister in law went through the same situation..she lost her baby at 16 weeks and she was devasted. Her husband was very supportive and he was trying to be strong for the both of them and i think that’s what every relationship should have..support from your loved ones especially in a situation like this. I felt so bad for her that i felt like i couldn’t do much to help..she was home from work and she locked herself in her room and didn’t come out for anything..she just stayed in bed and cried…so i think it’s pretty normal because you do need that greiving time. and take as long as you need because this affects everyone different. She also told me that she read books, inspirational ones and that made her feel alot better. This thing your going through will pass in time…there will be brighter days..just try to keep up chin up and surround yourself with loving family for comfort. Best wishes to you for a speedy recovery.