If I get pregnant again will my depression from my miscarriage go away?
Tuesday, March 23rd, 2010 at
12:26 pm
In Feburary I had an early pregnancy miscarriage and since then I’ve been very depressed. Although the pregnancy I lost was a surprise, my hubby and I are going to try again and work thinks out like we were going to for the baby I lost in Feburary. Do you think that another pregnancy will help my deppresion go away. P.S I’m not trying to replace the baby I lost and I’ve to a docter,counsler and my pastore.
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yes probably sometimes when it is your first time trying it doesn’t always work, i know it didn’t for me. try again it probably will take your depression away
you can’t use something from the outside (another pregnancy) to cure something from the inside (how you feel about the miscarriage).
you need to deal with your sadness. understand where it is coming from. understand that it is NOT your fault, and you cannot go back to the past. you must deal with it in the present, and LET IT GO.
things happen in life that we cannot always control, but you can make the best of it.
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good luck.
Well, yes you will be happy about the new baby, but you will still feel bad about the miscarriage. I had a miscarriage years ago and still it makes me sad, but I am not depressed. Since the first pregnancy was a surprise and you werent really trying I would only have a baby if you really want to be a parent soon. I certainly would not have a baby just to avoid being depressed. Since you are depressed I would wait a little before trying. Maybe go on a vacation with your husband and get in a good frame of mind. Besides, what will you do if you miscarry the next one. Then you will really be depressed. Both my Mom and mother in law had more than one miscarriage before they finally had their kids. It does happen. I would take my time if I were you. Good luck.
Its normal to feel depressed after the loss of child. Although the hormonal imblance that miscarriage can cause contributes to those blue feelings. Try using progesterone cream to balance the amount of estrogen your body is producing. You use it topically and put it on your tummy or inner thighs or iner arms and rub it in. You use it from day 8-11 through to day 23 of your cycle and then discontinue during menses, then start again when menses stops. progesterone also regulates ovulation and regulates insulin levels which if are too high can cause anovulation or the absence of an egg at ovulation time.
When you do finally get pregnant continue to use the progesterone to prevent another miscarrigage for up to 2 months, by then the body will be producing enough progesterone on its own. Which is BTW why we have morning sickness.
Good luck.
Firstly I would work things out with your husband. It sound like you have 2 things going on here & you are trying to fix them up with a pregnancy. I’m sorry but i don’t think this is going to work for you. what you should do before bring a baby into the world is have a solid base. You don’t have that. You are working towards this & that’s great but I feel your a way off it. y You should be safe & secure in yourself as well, heal all your wounds, get you depression fully treated & then you will be able to accept your husband back. Only then should you start thing of bring another baby into the world.
If you try having another baby now you are at risk of having pre natal depression & then post natal depression & then you must think of the baby & what if thing don’t work out with you & your husband, a baby does not always fix a marriage.
Talk this over with your Doctor & your counselor especially if you are taking any medication for your depression.
I wish you well. I will work But give yourself time.
First of all, I want to let you know how sorry I am for your loss. No matter how early the miscarriage, it still hurts. I know; I’ve been there too.
On that note, my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage just one day after I found out I was pregnant. I was devastated, but I decided I was too afraid of losing another baby to try again right away, so I got b/c pills and was waiting for my first period following the miscarriage.
Well, lo and behold, that period never came…I found out a month later I was pregnant again! That pregnancy resulted in a perfectly healthy baby boy (who is now almost 18 yrs old), and while I still somewhat grieved over the baby that could’ve been, I also came to realize that miscarriage is often nature’s way of handling a situation with an infant that has something so terribly wrong with it that it would have no quality of life. And while I was never happy that I had that first miscarriage, it definitely happened for a reason…and had I not miscarried, I would not have the wonderful son I have today.
And to answer your question, it did lift my depression when I got pregnant again (especially so unexpectedly) although I was probably a little paranoid of having another miscarriage. But when I told my OB/GYN how I felt, he replied, “If you are going to miscarry, there’s nothing in the world you can do to prevent it; and if that baby is healthy and meant to be, there’s nothing in the world you can do to stop it.” Basically, he told me not to worry over a situation that may or may not even happen and of which I had no control over anyway.
I never forgot those words, and I hope they bring you some solace too.
Good luck to you in your future pregnancy!
i kknow how you feel, i lost my 1sr pregnancy 2 years ago and all i wanted was to be pregnant the. the long and short of it is not, it will not go away. 2 years on and 24.5 weeks pregnant now, i still think about it and it still hurts a little but its faded. but yes i am over the moon im pregnant, but now i know that im not replacing the baby i lost. if you and your partner feel its time to try then great, but it took me a little longer to see that back then it was about replacement. what i will say is that when you do get pregnant, you will most likely worry, will this happen again as i know i did, but try to think positively and enjoy your new pregnancy
xxx
Im so sorry for your loss but i think that it may help you a little to get over it if you do succced in falling pregnant and having a baby i know that it helped me i lost my son at 16 and a half weeks and i think if i hadnt had my new baby i would proberly still be really depressed its a terrible thing to have to go through but you will get through it just be strong and know that it wasnt your fault sometimes things end up bad but i know you will be fine just discuss with your partner about trying again and work through it together i bet you will have a baby that will help you heal and bring so much joy and extra love into your lives good luck sweetie .