I’m 36 weeks pregnant today with my second child. My first is 16 months old and I had no problems with that pregnancy other than the occasional emotional outburst. No depression afterward, but I did leave my husband 2 months later and we’re in the process of a semi-peaceful divorce. No custody battle, property problems or child support issues, but he’s not the father of this baby and he doesn’t want to pay for a paternity test to prove it, he wants me to do that. Not the issue at hand but I think it’s a factor in my emotional problems.

For the past month or so I’ve been feeling frantic but I can’t pinpoint a reason for it. I’m desperate to do something but I don’t know what it is, and I think my stress is ruining my relationship with my boyfriend. I’m also worried about money after the baby is born.

Since I’m not working it’s my responsibility to keep the house in order and I don’t have a problem with that, it’s fair and I try to do what I can. But lately I’ve been so tired (like I could happily fall into a coma at any given time) and I just sleep during the day. It’s all I want to do but I can’t seem to sleep at all at night. Now the housework is suffering. The dishes just sit there, it’s hard to get the laundry done – especially since I have no washer or dryer and have to go to my dad’s house to do it. It just seems so overwhelming now that it’s all gone to crap and I still have to do it by myself.

And now my b/f and I are arguing over this, how he works his butt off all day at work and is just as tired as I am when he gets home. He’s not a bad man and he’s stressed out too so I don’t blame him for not wanting to help out when I’m just sleeping all day. But the guilt over not working, not being able to do more that a couple things a day, worrying about how we’re going to pay our bills, and knowing that I’m not going to get any sleep for the next year is all taking it’s toll. It makes me want to crawl into a hole, bawl my eyes out and forget everything exists.

I know I should probably see a therapist or something but honestly, I have too much to do to make time, and even if I could I wouldn’t. How can I let everyone know that I’m miserable when they’ll just tell me it’s my hormones and laugh it off? And how do I now that these problems won’t get worse after the baby’s born?

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Filed under: Pregnancy Depression Support

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