Post Partum Depression, during && after pregnancy – help?
I have it now, I always seem like I’m alone and nobodys helping, when I know that’s clearly not true. I always think my boyfriends messing around, I don’t know why but it’s just a feeling I keep having and that brings me down a lot. Like I get it mostly when I’m by myself. I always think that I can’t do it, (Don’t tell me I’m going to be a horrible mother because of this either!) and then that makes me rethink being pregnant and it makes me sometimes wish I wasn’t pregnant to begin with, I get scared shitless that I’m going to to do a horrible job and things are going to go wrong. Like today I went over to my little brothers house to see his newborn little brother and his mom kept asking me if I wanted to hold the baby, I couldn’t hold him like I got scared that I was going to drop him. I do realize that I need to get over it.. I’m just wondering if anyone else has ever felt like this? I feel horrible thinking these things.. I really truelly do! I asked my friend she said she feels the same and it’s just the hormones, but how can I get it to go away? It’s driving me crazy and stresses me out and the last thing I want to be is stressed. I find out the sex in a week hopefully. I’ll be 16 weeks tomorrow, and I’ll be 17 weeks and 1 day when I go in find the sex and hoping that they can find it. Cause I know that me being anxious to find out the sex hasn’t really been helping a lot. My mom told me that when she found out the sex that she just started to get ready and she just kept her mind on getting things ready and it helped go away… would that help?
I would really like to know what I can do to make this go away or ease up a little bit. Because I hate feeling like I can’t do this.. and I hate being scared to death about being a mother.. but then I’m so excited to see my little angel for the first time and teach them right from wrong. I couldn’t be more happy that I’m pregnant so don’t get me wrong, I just get in these moods where it completely brings me face down into the dirt.
feel free to share your stories.
I just am kind of asking for help in this situation.
thanks <3
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You sound perfectly normal. Not that depression is good, just that you’re having normal reactions to all those hormones. It does sound intense though so you might consider talking with your doctor about possible ways of treating the depression so it doesn’t get worse. Then find ways to occupy yourself when you find you’re alone. Its always worse when you’re alone so try and avoid that. Go out walking at the park or join a new mommy meetup group or something similar.
I got seriously depressed after my kids were born, but with the first I had other reasons for it… my husband DID cheat and wanted to relieve his guilt by telling me when I was 8 months along. That doesn’t mean that yours is, I had no suspicions at all that mine did.
With the second child I actually had to go on meds after he was born. It took me 2 years to overcome my PPD. I hope you have more success than I did.
i actually posted a question similar to this one last night. I am 33 weeks and i feel the SAME way. For the past week i keep asking myself “why didnt you just get an abortion when you had the chance”. And then i would cry after thinking that because i love my son so much already, and i would be devistated if anything happened to him. Its totally normal to feel like you can’t do it. I have felt that my boyfriend was running around on me for a while, but i think that has a lot to do with the fact that i dont find myself physically attractive anymore so why should he? Im sure once you find out the sex of your baby you will start to get a little more excited, but i do know that its scary. Im terrified just thinking about him actually being here. But there is no turning back now. And if it wasn’t meant to be, it wouldn’t. =] hope this helps a little. If you need someone to talk to just e-mail me iitsmytimet0shine@yahoo.com
Everyone goes through some things while they are pregnant. Just talk to your doctor about it, because some antidepressants are safe during pregnancy.. like Zoloft.
awwwwww sweetheart your gonna be fine!
I know (KNOW) how you feel…..Your going to do wonderfully.
think of this……what if EVERYTHING your terrified of is true…..what then?
Lets see, worst that can happen is this, you grab a parenting magazine and read up on whatever your confused about and you get some answers…..or you jump on yahoo answers and ask and lots of us moms give you some advise…..
as far as the boyfriend goes….if hes a cheeter….you dont want him anyway……if hes not a cheater….your so blessed so dont badger him.
I know this all sounds so simple but when your feeling overwhelmed….stop and say to yourself….what if it all REALLY is just as bad as I am terrified of….then what? Well, youll learn because you are a wonderful mommy and that is what all of us do.
Our mommy switch turns on during labor and something happens to all of us….we become lighter sleepers, we learn to hide our feelings better, we suddenly know when poop smells bad and when its ok! We suddenly know that spitting up is FINE and throwing up is bad….we know when the baby is cold and when they are uncomfortable….we know that they look better in green than in orange….we know EVERYTHING……and what we dont KNOW, we know where to LEARN it. and we learn it FAST – because the subject is so important to us.
Try to practice your lamaze focusing techniques during your scary times. Look back at your own baby pictures and find one that makes you feel realy good about being a mom yourself. Talk to your mom about some of the crazy things that you did when she was a mom and let her tell you how she handled it so that you will see that we all sort of feel our way through it and God has given us a natural navigation system to do most of the work.
You can do this…..watch a great comedy find something that helps you laugh and let your baby enjoy the sounds of mommies laughter intermingled with your heartbeat…..spend this time falling in love with each other not stressing…..youll be so glad later.
Good luck and bless you honey.
well im new to this too, i feel paranoid that every time im gone from my bf that he’s going to cheat on me! i panic if he doesnt call or something, yeah its true that maybe this is normal for pregnat girls to feel this way but then again if you had a history of depression like me, it could come back 3-4 years and this is my year…yeah i dont wanna be depressed again i hate that feeling. talk to your doctor and ask if this is normal, oh and i think you find out the sex of the baby around 20 weeks…good luck