sadness during pregnancy?

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1. Aimee H says:

   August 5, 2009 at 12:23 pm

   My parents both moved out of state and my husband works a lot, I stay at home. It is hard to be sad when you are supposed to be happy you are pregnant, but it will pass and soon you will have someone to care for and it will take your mind off of it.
2. stacey says:

   August 5, 2009 at 1:16 pm

   See if there are any pregnancy groups in your area and be around people that are in the same shoes as you. You will soon meet new friends and they will have things in common.
3. Finchy says:

   August 5, 2009 at 2:14 pm

   Yes you need a new hobby or a good book to read and you need some anti depressants

   Good luck
4. Shona xXx says:

   August 5, 2009 at 2:56 pm

   well as far i’ve heard it often happens…
   i think you should just try and get out a bit more, maybe go shopping with some friends, go for walks in the park, etc. – because it’s ok now that your pregnancy is a bit more stable.

   but i also think that you shouldn’t let your fiance do too much work…i know that he’s doing it for you all, but you both need to have some time together and enjoy this time – because after you’ve had the baby, both of your lives will change forever…

   try to be happy and good luck!
5. mable.syrup says:

   August 5, 2009 at 3:33 pm

   It’s not easy- but just try and relax and not be stressed. Go shopping or for a walk or read a book or do something to help take your mind of the ‘negative’ things going on. It’s hard that your sister moved away- and that your fiance is working a lot.. just be glad he wants to help take care of you and your baby. I’ve been in the position of being that far along pregnant and completely ALONE- he wasn’t working to help us out- he thought he would be more useful in his friends basement shooting heroin. Anyways- that was a long time ago.. my point is, just be thankful he is so supportive. Maybe you could spend some extra time together this week or tonight? Make a special dinner for him and rent some movies or something. Things will get easier. Do you have anyone else around you are close with that you could invite to go do something with or invite over? (a parent, grandparent, friend) Try not to let these feelings get the best of you- because if you do then you’ll just be stressed out and depressed your entire pregnancy and then when you have the baby- thats when the helplessness and depression really set in- and it happens anyway- so it’s much easier to overcome if you have a good support system and aren’t stressed/depressed going into the birth. Sorry to hear your sister moved. Can you call her and talk on the phone at least?
6. champagne says:

   August 5, 2009 at 3:49 pm

   your hormones are probably all over the place, yes you will miss your sister, but think of your little baby, you will not find the time going by, and you will have a lovely family, why not go for walks, go to the shops and plan out what you are going to buy for the baby, start to pick out names, this is a very special time for you , so you must enjoy it do not get stressed , it is not good for you or the baby,god bless
7. unforgetable angel says:

   August 5, 2009 at 4:02 pm

   You need to have a friend over so you won’t feel so alone. If you are deppressed then you and that friend you have over there can talk and that seems to help a lot. Don’t tell yourself how stressful everything is that could possibly send you into deeper depression and hurt your wonderful gift. But don’t think you will hurt your baby because that will make you feel very guilty and you don’t want that. Good luck I hope I helped.
8. nailcikcia says:

   August 5, 2009 at 4:37 pm

   Just the fact of being pregnant can make a woman very sad. I know, I’ve gone through it almost everyday of being pregnant. On top of that, you have your support system almost gone with your fiance working more (being with you less) and your sister being gone.

   It will pass, but you may need to talk to your doctor about it if it lasts consistantly for more than 2 weeks. I would seek out people to talk to either online, or get into a baby prep class like lamazze or breastfeeding classes. Anything really to have more people around to just talk to. Your ob office should have a list of classes going on in your area.

   It may also be a good idea to talk to your fiance about you being sad. Actually, just do it anyway. Make sure that you don’t make him feel guilty about working more to save for the impending birth. But also remember that babies are a permanent fianancial difficulty. It may be more wise for him to just continue working how he used to, and for the two of you to work on a better budget for your money. Money is not as important as you might think, you are much more important.

   There are so many things that we think we are necessities for babies when in all actuality, they aren’t. Extras like a changing table, a bigger apartment/house, new baby clothes… can be done without. Used cribs are even fine as long as you make sure they were made in the last 10 years and look online for any product recalls or issues with the crib. Ebay is wonderful for finding large “lots” of baby clothes for cheap. I’ll unlock my e-mail on my profile if you want any more tips. But believe me, money is not something to worry about, you are much more important.

   Sorry for the really long answer, and congradulations on your pregnancy!
9. BoysMommy says:

   August 5, 2009 at 5:12 pm

   I can totally relate to that…I’ve gone through the same thing through my pregnancies. I think it is definitely hormone related. Besides, at 16 weeks, you are at that stage where you feel really fat but not obviously pregnant – not a real confidence booster.

   Try taking daily walks outside. I also found regular shopping for cute new maternity clothes (Motherhood is a fairly cheap place to get the trendy stuff) helped. You may also search out a local La Leche League group. They will give you some really good info on mothering and you will likely be able to connect with some stay at home moms.
10. Julie Beth says:

    August 5, 2009 at 5:58 pm

    That doesn’t sound easy. Be sure to communicate with your finance how you feel. While money is important, so is your state of being. Your mental health is just as important as any other type of health (emotional, physical, spiritual) during pregnancy. I would suggest finding some females who are in the same situation as you are to help fight this loneliness. If you haven’t joined any type of organization that will counsel you through this important time in life I would suggest that. A women’s health group, or even a church would be beneficial right now. You need to talk though your feelings with someone who really cares, maybe your mother or close girlfriend who can be with you at times like this. I’ve included a link about depression during pregnancy, but it’s there as a reference, I am in no way saying you fit the definition. (As I am sure you know – don’t take antidepressants or any other drug while pregnant.) Get your mind off those you miss, it’s not going to help anything to think about them all the time. Put your energy into more constructive areas and really seek out relationships and people you can trust. Good luck!
11. Christine says:

    August 5, 2009 at 6:53 pm

    Yes I felt sad during parts of my pregnancies too, it just depended on what was going on around me. With your fiance trying to work more and your sister moving, you have every right to feel sad. It is hard feeling sad when your pregnant becuase everyone thinks you should be so happy all the time. With all the extra hormones I think that is impossible!! Anyhow, I just tried to do things that I knew would cheer me up, like go buy a small baby toy, or look at baby clothes/items online… anything to help take my mind off of whatever was bothering me. Also, you should tell your fiance, so he knows… I understand you don’t want him to worry about you but he can probably help with the sadness if you talk about it! Stress does affect the baby, but not as much as some people think. This pregnancy, my husband has been laid off 2 times, we had friends buy a car from us and never pay for it, our bills were getting behind and I was working full time and trying to keep up with my toddler. I have been stressed, and the baby is just fine! So good luck, and try to distract yourself!
12. Nina says:

    August 5, 2009 at 7:03 pm

    Pregnancy can feel like you are on a rollercoaster ride of emotions at times. It is normal to feel a bit down at times and feel stressed out about what life will be like when the baby is here. I know how you feel not having family around during this time. I live in NYC and all of my family is in Denver. Have you spoke with your fiance about how you are feeling? I know you proabally don’t want to “bother” him with this because he has been working so hard, but I’m sure he will listen and you will feel better getting things off your chest. Why not give your sister a call as well.
    And as far as stressing the baby out with all of this, it is okay to go ahead and have a good cry if you need to. Thats another good way to get some of your frustrations and emotions out, and you won’t be harming your baby in any way.
    Remember you can always talk to your doctor or a nurse too about how you are feeling. Your emotional well-being is also a part of your prenatal care and your over all health.
    I wish you all the best sweety. Take care-
13. brwnsuga says:

    August 5, 2009 at 7:37 pm

    You have to understand that what you are feeling is completely normal for a pregnant woman. I did have that blue feeling too when I was pregnant coz my husband had to be outstation during the pregnancy but my ob/gyn told me that I have to try to make myself happy because there will be a chance that I will also suffer from post-natal depression if I didn’t. So i tried to figure out what makes me happy. When I was pregnant, I didn’t wanna hang out with my friends and they kinda put me aside too coz I was pregnant and couldn’t do the things they do so I picked up some new hobby. I read about babies, I watch movies that i downloaded (only humor) and I try to keep myself busy doing other meaningful things and try to enjoy my pregnancy and it works out. I just want to remind you that all habits that you have during your pregnancy is a start of your baby’s upbringing, so why not pick up some good habits that your baby can inherit from you? Pregnancy is a beautiful thing, pls enjoy it and when you keep yourself happy, you’ll produce a happy baby. A happy mommy makes a happy baby!! Enjoy yourself!! Congratulations!
14. lady bug says:

    August 5, 2009 at 8:03 pm

    My husband works A LOT… I really do feel your pain. My mother also moved 2 hours away not that long ago… I don’t really have anyone and it is normal to get sad. I wouldn’t necessarily go as far as to say that you are depressed, because the situation you are in is what is causing the sadness. If taken out of the situation, you wouldn’t be sad. So.. I think you need to spend some more time with friends, go out and buy stuff for the baby, watch tv… just do things that keep your mind off of what is making you sad. Although, I know it is difficult at times.
15. jenny b says:

    August 5, 2009 at 8:34 pm

    Welcome to normal pregnancy. You need to go to a support group for pregnant women to talk to who are going through the same thing Angie call your sister and see if she got where she was going ok. Go out to dinner w your fiance and tell him you need some together time.
16. alexia says:

    August 5, 2009 at 8:39 pm

    hey darling )
    im currently 40 weeks pregnant so my little one will be here anyday
    feeling sad and down is very common i went through several phases
    its the worst when everyone is at work or whatever and your stuck in the house without anyone to see or speak to
    ive had this these past few weeks i have been on maternity leave all my girlfriends where working my partner was working and i was sat at home with nothing to do
    i didnt want to go out as going out on your owns no fun i didnt want to eat cause eating on your owns no fun i just felt depressed….
    i spoke to the doctor and he assured me these feelings are normal and once your little one is here you will never be bored again !! lol
    try gettin on to a mother to be chat room … there will be ladies there going through the same situations as you and it will help to have a girly gossip and and chat

    all the best xxxxxxxx