Serious depression after miscarriage. How do i know if its just hormones?
I miscarried almost 3 months ago but my sadness seems to be getting worse and worse. I am seeing a therapist which I’m sure will help slowly, but I just can’t seem to stop feeling empty and upset. When I get sad I get bad headaches and my stomach starts to hurt (similar to when I get VERY stressed). In addition, I am having horrible nightmares and difficulty sleeping. I am having serious emotional and sexual issues, and my stomach turns when my boyfriend touches any part of my lower abdomen (where the baby was). Is there any way to know if this is still hormones? It just seems like the pain is increasing but I don’t want to go on antidepressants unless I am sure this is all emotional. Thanks.
I miscarried when I was about 19 weeks along if that is relevant.
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it sounds like it is just emotional issues with you just because if it was still postpartum stuff that would have passed about a month ago. depending on how preggo you were i think that this is all just emotional. anti-depressants aren’t bad but if you are adamant on not being on them i would try taking something natural like st. johns wort or B12 complex vitamin. hope everything works out for you. im sure it will pass. it just takes time.
It’s not hormones anymore, this is just you. You really sound depressed and medication may be the way to go. It doesn’t mean you will be on them forver. Keep talking to your therapist and see what she thinks.
It’s emotional. I went through the same thing and it’s still hard to deal with. Everyday you see all these people with these tiny babies or woman who never take care of themselves that get pregnant easy! Ha! I just feel like going on a rampage. Even to this day and it’s only been a year! I became infertile for some reason or another after my miscarriage and my husband doesn’t even want to think about trying to have a baby. He thinks that we are to young and no ready. I tell you what, I have the entire nursery and any extras that I need. I’m ready emotionally and financially. It’s hard but it does get better over time.
Hun I have gone through 2 miscarriages and they do get harder as the days go by.
In the end I would definately reccommend the antidepressants at this point.
You won’t need to be on them forever it will help get your life back on track.
Its a really hard thing to have to go through.
One day your time will come and you’ll be a great mom I promise.
As for now it must not have been time.
Good luck to you and if you need someone to talk to you can email or im me.
Hey sweet,
i know what you mean as i have been thu the same thing,
I know how you are feeling, and it’s not nice at all.
I had my M/C 4 months ago and still i get very unhappy some days to, but i just turned to my friends and family for SUPPORT, and the hubby.
Try to keep ur chin up cause life goes on babe :0)
there is a stigma about using antidepressants that just isn’t fair to those that are suffering. have you seen those signs that are around about comparing diabetes to depression. i saw one last week that said soemthing like…it just diabetes, get over it. you cant tell a diabetic that they dont need their insulin. soemtimes you need a medicine to cope with a problem. it doesn’t mean that you need it forever. a therapist can help you deal with the issues too, but sometimes that medicine can help bring you out of the hole you feel like you are in and let you start to deal with things. if you feel like the therapy might just not help you as much as you would like, don’t be afraid to ask for extra help….meds. there is nothing wrong with that. hang in there and i am really sorry for your loss.
Depression after a miscarriage is a serious thing. If talking to a therapist doesn’t work, sometimes there a group conseulings at your nearist hospital. Talking with other people that have gonna through the samething sometimes helps. You can also get books from the library about miscarriages. Before to resort to medication just remember that you can still have more babies even though you feel like this was it.
I feel your pain. I also miscarried it happened one month ago and like you i have been severely depressed. Again like you im experiencing physical and sexual issues. I finally realized i needed to do something about it, My doctor said that in most cases they wait for the 3 month point before putting someone on antidepressants, but as i have had previous problems with depression she put me on it just last week. My theory is if you have a broken arm you put a cast on it, if you have a cold you take cold medicine….. If you have a hormonal or chemical imbalance…you take something for it.
I would suggest booking a appointment with your doctor and start working on fixing this. Im on something called Wellbutrin, its a active antidepressant so you don’t feel sleepy.
I hope you find the answer you need. My thought are with you.
It is mostly Emotional and bit of hormonal too..
Everything you wrote sounds sooo familiar.. I also lost Twin boys at 16th week in August and went thru hell.. still struggling with physical problem and endless mental ones.. I know what you are going thru,, it is very , very hard journey
My suggestion for you is go for Grief counseling.. it wl help you immensely, also talk to your family and friends.. talk to your baby’s father.. and make a goal and aim for it.. right now all I am thinking is having another Baby.. now I am TTC.. just thinking having another baby kept me going
My prayers are with you and god bless you..
Please…if you find something that works for you, let me know. I feel like I’m living in my own hell sometimes. I miscarried on October 17th, it is now March and I’m still experiencing emotional break downs that last for days and are getting worse. It is affecting every aspect of my life. I was 3 1/2 months along, 11 o’clock at night and home alone when it happened. I didn’t know what to do and couldn’t get the doctor to call me back. I never imagined something could be so heart wrenching and difficult as this was. My due date is coming up next month and I’m hoping that when it passes that this will too.
Hi, I am new to this and don’t know where to start. firstly my heart goes out to you all that have suffered a miscarriage. I had my fourth miscarriage last year December 2010 no children yet , and i dont know what im supposed to feel any more or how to react infront of people. I cried so much and never wanted to leave the house and just wanted to be alone. The only support i had was from my husband but even him i felt like i couldn’t open up to as i didn’t know if it was ok to feel the way i was because of what people would say to when theyd see him hurting, i was told to smile and take the frown of my face and not to worry about it as im still young and i have plenty of time to have kids so i ended up pushing every one away and i just wish i could let out how im feeling and the pain.
Sorry for your loss. No one replying to you is qualified to say if your emotional or hormonal. I had a second trimester misc in Dec 2010 and suffered terribly until prob Aug 2011. I believe without a doubt I was fighting hormonal dep. I refused meds bc I was worried they would make me worse. I would not wish that suffering on anyone. Consider medication until some time has passed. Good luck to you.