Serious responces only please. questions about abortion.?
I have been pro-abortion all of my life. but never would have thought of actually testing my beliefs personally.
i just found out last night that i am 4 weeks pregnant. i am currently 20 yrds and taking anti-depressants, anti-anxiety and anti-psychotics for multiple reasons such as manic depression agoraphobia, self mutilation, GAD, for just a few.
my decision has been to termintate the pregnancy. not only for my self but for my fiance (who is behind me 100%) and has two years of college to go untill he gets his degree.
my choice is not easy i have been upset and crying the entire time, but i am mentally unable to take care of a baby. i have been in the hospital many times this past year for failed suicide attempts and for the self mutulation. both me and my fiance is living with my parents and mooching off of them for food and even cash every now and again. we cannot even sustain a life for us let alone a baby.
why i did not choose adoption. if i am off my meds i get very depressed and suicidal. my anxiety peaks and i have many panic attacks. carrying the pregnancy to full term i dont doubt will kill me, and the child.
this is a decision that i have already made for my self, my soon to be husband and our children that we plan to have when we can support our selves. And very importantly when my depression anxiety and self mutilation is in better control. i am hurting my sister very much (only other soul that knows what i am doing) for she is strongly anti-abortion with 3 little ones of her own. yet i feel very confidant when she told me that she understands that my medical issues must be taken care of prior to having a child.
any people out there that can give me good accurate info about abortion. pros and cons about medical and surgical. Also one thing that scares me is the pain, both mental and physical. does anyone know web sites for support?
please no mean comments if this is not what you believe in, do not post how terrible i am. we were using condoms and i guess we are one of that 3% where we used them improperly.
if you dont have anything nice to say dont say anything at all.
thanks in advance
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My dear, I am pro-choice also & I empathize for your situation. But in reading your question it honestly seems that you have made YOUR decision & do to your mental illness, ( I’m saying this with heart), you are looking for someone to validate your choice.
It’s gonna be hard to find web sites that are nuetral on the subject matter & no matter what others in here are sure to slam you with their opions. I say to you, read again what you wrote. You have already decided in writing. The rest (action) is up to you.
My friends that have had them say there is a depression that comes afterward. I don’t know if it’s hormonal or what, but be prepared. Some of them have never recovered from the trauma of it. You might take it day by day, and find an adoptive family for your baby. I used to have agoraphobia and panic attacks and depression too. I carried and delivered 2 babies without a hitch. I never thought I could. I have 2 friends that have adopted babies with the same family history as you have. It’s too soon to tell if the babies will inherit the mental illness or what. I do know that they are in wonderful loving homes. Also my cousin had 2 babies and she is a cutter, bi-polar etc. Her parents are raising the kids, and she did great during her pregnancies, it was the parenting that’s the problem. I hope you make the right decision. I’ll say a little prayer for you. May God bless you during this difficult time.
i dont know much about the logistics of an abortion but i respect your choice. I myself would never get an abortion but I know that if I did get pregnant im mentally stable enough to take care of a child. I think that it is VERY wise of you to terminate the pregnancy, you are thinking smart. you know whats best for you. of coarse you are depressed right now, just remember that you are 100% doing the RIGHT THING. thank-you for knowing what you can and can’t do, and not bringing a child into this world that wouldn’t b correctly provided for, we have enough of those in this world as it is!
There is no straight pro or con its your choice.
Abortion is an option, best within the first 10 weeks or if there are serious medical problems. I do not support abortion however its not my choice its yours and it needs to be taken seriously. Your health could be an important factor in the decision as you are taking many pills. If u continued with the pregnancy you would have to possible stop taking those pills and then that could effect your mental health but also physical. But if you had an abortion you could get more depressed. However like i said its your decision im not a doctor or a parent just someone with an opinion. i think you should talk to a psychologist or doctor before making any decisions.
Just one question – if it’s even possible, considering the medications you have to take – can you carry to term and then give the baby up for adoption?
If not, or if you choose not to, abortion seems to be your only choice. I can’t tell you about the physical pain (I’m a man), but the mental pain you’re already going through must be terrible. But it’s your decision, and it sounds as if you’ve made it, so all I can do is wish you the best of luck in this, and in the future. (I’ve always been pro choice, which means I’m in favor of you making the choice.) And congratulations on your upcoming wedding.
I will answer you as honestly as I can and from my own experience. I had an abortion at 20 and I am still pro-choice. I didn’t feel I could adequately raise a child and I did what I felt was the best decision for me. I still feel today it was the best decision. You have to go with your gut instinct on this one. Your body is extremely hormonal right now and you need to have the abortion before you get to be 9 weeks or more. The further along and the more it will hurt and the more it will cost. I don’t know what state you live in, so for internet sites, look up planned parenthood. They can point you in the right direction. Also look in your yellow pages under abortions. That is what I did many years ago… As far as emotions after the procedure, I was naturally upset. I think you need to concentrate on yourself and your wellbeing. Remember that your hormones will be in a state of flux for a while, but you will be okay. Ignore the negative feedback and rely on the ones closest to you for support right now. You’ll get through it.
I think the decision you’ve made is the best one for yourself and your soon to be husband. Sometimes when a child is brought in an already hectic situation, it makes things worse on the parents and it hurts the child. Remember that there are tons of children in this world that are uncared for, abandoned, abused or worse. Sometimes it’s better to abort to save yourself and that child. If the child was really meant to be born into a life then it can do it through someone else or you in the future when it’s a better time. Best of luck with your mental instability. I’ve been struggling myself for many years. Here is some info about the types of abortion available and a site that will help you out in some further information.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/abortion-4260.htm
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/abortion/in-clinic-abortion-4359.htm
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/abortion/abortion-pill-medication-abortion-4354.htm
well as for the decision if you have made it then be in peace with it, their is a time and place for everything a reason that everything is said and done if it is understood at the time or not that is different
as for the spiritual side of things if the baby is meant to come to you then it will come to you in this life time in one form or another if its meant to be born of you then it will if it is meant to be born then it will find another path to enter int this world
as for the responsible thing to do well look at the stage of your life and the things you have and dont and see what you need to have a baby if you dont have those things it would be irresponsible for you to have that baby one not only for its health reasons but for its mental reasons how would the kid turn out if you have the problems you have right now and it grew up around you then the stress that would be added to you from the baby doing what babies do it would prob make it worse on you and your mate also keep looking on you did you know babies turn into teenagers its incredible and a horror teenagers come from cute babies its just wrong (lol) yea that would just tare you apart even the most “mentally sane” individuals loose that when they come face to face with teenagers then your relationship with your mate would suffer and also the rest of your relationships it would be really irresponsible if you wish to stay mentally sane or just over healthy
about the process i cant say much my wife could i used to be pro-life untill i met her she should me how the woman’s body is the woman’s body and not just something used to pop-out babies because it has the ability to its like once the female gets pregnant its no longer her body but it belongs to the baby even if it would kill the female
for me i wish i could have more children but unfortunately it would be irresponsible for us to do so neither one of us is to that place at this time we might in the future but for now for her well being and for the happiness and safety of us i am going to get the operation to prevent me from being fertile because if we ever share our love in that way she does not want to risk her being pregnant and because i love her i will do so maybe this could be a choice for the two of you the males operation can be undone i think but then again oh well
over all in your case take the path you have chosen and think of more preventable paths of making sure pregnancy does not happen but if you want children in the future then prepare everything to be as it should be to raise another life with you and be ready for it to be a teenager