Should I care about these people?
Before I got pregnant, I was going through a very bad time of about 3 months. I was diagnosed with clinical depression and was taking anti depressants. At my lowest point I ended up in hospital after attempting to commit suicide.
Well I think me getting pregnant was my answer from God, and I am just so much better now. I stopped the medication as soon as I found out that I was pregnant and have been absolutely healthy during my pregnancy.
The thing is during the time I was depressed, a lot of my so called ‘friends’ left me to deal with things on my own. Now that I am pregnant, some of them haven’t even bothered to congratulate me.
It hurts, because I always stuck with them during their bad times, and I was always a really outgoing person so when depression struck, I really needed support, which from most of my friends I did not get.
One who knows I am pregnant, started saying to me I’m worried for your baby because you weren’t 100% and you ended up in hospital. I think – what does she think? That I would hurt my baby? I would never dream of that. I told her that I know everything will be fine, and that I am so happy now – everything is going right for me, and she said perhaps when the baby is born your depression will come back.
She got me worried, like thinking she would report me or something and try and get my baby taken from me, because of when I was ill in the past.
What are your opinions? Please be considerate, this was not easy to write.
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dont bother with those sorts of people. Their a waste of space. you deserve better. If my friends did that to me i would never forgive them. Find some more trustworthy friends that u know wont give u a hard time and stick by your side no matter what u do .. btw Congrats on the baby hun xx:)
Congratulations on your pregnancy! Doesn’t sound like you have very nice friends, for one thing it might be an idea to meet some new ones, for instance through mothers groups in your area.
Quite a large percentage of women get postnatal depression and it is considered natural – just because you had depression in the past doesn’t guarantee you will/won’t get it.
Unless you actually hurt your baby or don’t take care of it properly, even if your “friend” does attempt to report you in some way, I think they’ll laugh at her. Millions of women get pregnant every year, and I’m sure that nearly none of them have a perfect history of well paying jobs, no mental illness and perfect health.
Good luck with the baby!
A lot of people live an unhealthy lifestyle previous to pregnancy. DO NOT let anybody bring you down. Unfortunately friends have a way of disappearing when they find out you are pregnant because they realize that you no longer have the same interests. You should definitely leave it that way. Their influence on you was/is not a good one. Nobody can change the past, but you can change the future.
You should take a parenting or labor class. You will learn some things as well as make some good friends who are going through the same things as you. Also, if your “friend” even thought about trying to report you for whatever she thinks you have done/will do wrong, you will have the classes and new friends to help you look better. It sounds to me like she’s just jealous that you’ve moved on and she’s stuck where you were at. She probably is afraid of you cutting ties with her….and you should. A friend who puts you down or makes you feel like you can’t do something isn’t a friend at all.
Good luck to you with your baby. It sounds to me like you’ve turned your life around and will make a wonderful mother to your baby!
If that’s how they are treating you then they are not true friends and you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life. Depression is not a contagious disease and I’m sorry that your “friends” treated it as such. You’ve come a long way, you should be proud of yourself and look towards your future, the past is just that, the past. Good luck to you and congratulations on your pregnancy. The only word of caution I have for you is because of your past history you are more at risk for postpartum depression. It’s nothing to be scared of, just something to be aware of. Your doctor will probably recommend you going back on antidepressants just to make sure that you are not another victim of postpartum depression.
I’ve been hospitalized for attempting suicide, I know exactly where you are coming from. Because you were depressed doesn’t mean you will be after you give birth. Also, they can’t take away your baby unless they have evidence that you did something to harm him or her. Everyone goes through things, no one is strong all of the time. Sometimes the world hurts so much that you just wish it would all go away. Sometimes you think it’s all your fault and you shouldn’t be living. I have so been there, a LOT of people have. I’m not sure your friends are really all that worthy to be in your life, especially if they treat you like that. If I had a friend that talked to me like that, I wouldn’t bother with them anymore.
I talked to my OB/GYN and told him that I have been diagnosed with depression, social anxiety disorder, and post-traumatic stress disorder. I wanted him to be aware that if the drop of hormones effected me too much he would be ready to prescribe me medication to deal with it easier. He was VERY awesome and would always take extra time to talk to me if I needed it. You should inform your doctor (if you haven’t already), the support you can get from them can be awesome.
Though it may not feel like it sometimes, there are people around that are there for you and will support you.
I believe you will be a great mommy.