Stay at home mom depressed and lonely don’t know what to do?
I have 2 children. One 6 and one 13 months. I’m almost 7 months pregnant and stay at home everyday. I don’t have any friends anymore my stepsister/ best friend quit talking to me b/c she doesn’t like my boyfriend (father of my 3 children) I’m low income and live in a rural area and can’t afford to go out and do much. I would love to get a job, but I can’t afford daycare and rent on minimum wage (that’s all the jobs pay in my area). I used to spend time with my mom but she hasn’t been around much lately b/c my stepdad has aggressive cancer and gets daily treatment and hour away. I just really feel alone lately and don’t know what to do. I have nothing to look forward to. My boyfriend works a lot so I don’t even see him that often. I was being treated for postpartum depression when I got pregnant but had to quit taking med due to pregnancy. And I no longer go to counseling b/c I felt like I wasn’t doing much talking- my counselor mostly chit chatted about her grandkids. I wake up everyday not wanting to get out of bed b/c I know all there is to do is clean. I plan to start school in the fall, but that’s still 3 months away. Has anyone else ever felt like this? What can I do to make things better? .
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I have felt like that get a new counselor and consider an antidepressant some are safe for baby If It makes you feel happier the benefits will out way the risk I am on antidepressants and go to counseling it helps
It seems like your in a rut. I suggest you find a church that you can go to. You might ask people in your local community who have children to to hang out. have you ever thought of going to a children parks.
One of the best natural cures for this is sunshine and fresh air. Get some plants for you to take care of and talk to. Load the babies into the stroller and take a walk. Why can’t you take the antidepressants again? I’m assuming they worked/did something for you. You should be able to find an antidepressant to take while pregnant, tell your doc/midwife you need something. Also physical labor would help too, when I get that way I go outside in the sun, fresh air and chop some wood. Good luck, honey.
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I think you need to talk to your step-sister/best friend and tell herhow you feel. If you express your feelings with her, you feel a lot better. Also, if you get some exercise you can feel a bit better, too. That’s what my mom did. She use to go for walks around, and take deep breathes. And when I was in junior high, I was very moody, so I took Yoga, and it calmed me a lot, and made me feel better, too.
First of all get your butt out of the country and move to the city. What is there to do in the country except cow tipping?
You need socialization. Do you have anyone to hang out with? I know being pregnant might make it a little difficult to really go out and have fun but it shouldn’t limit you.
How about getting a babysitter to watch your kids and spend the day pampering yourself?
Sometimes men and women who are depressed has nothing to do with a mental disorder. It’s their surroundings. With everything happening around you, who wouldn’t be depressed?
Your friends and step sister were never really your friends were they? You are an adult and you choose who you want to be with and for them to turn their backs on you because they don’t like your man shows lack of integrity. WTF? Shame on them.
I think you need to talk with your boyfriend and address your concerns with him. As your man, he should at least put his priorities in order and put you first.
go on this site call cafemoms and find mother in your area it’s really nice ppl on there and i met alot of stay at home moms you really dont need money to go on play dates
We have all been there one time or another, some in more degrees than others but only YOU can decide to make the change and it starts in your heart and mind. Look at your children, they are gifts…don’t see them as work. If you want a change you have to do something different. Show yourself friendly to others. Only you can decide to make a change in your life…are you going to be pitiful or powerful? You have to be powerful, you have those little faces looking up at you and you are the main example of a woman they see right now. Write your story and start today…what will you say? You have everything inside of you to be successful. You are probably most sad because of your disconnect with your stepsister…it hurts, you feel but you cannot let it stop you at all! She should have that power over you. Low income? Get into business…can’t afford it? Think it cost a lot? Not what I’m doing. Want to know more then check out this site: http://www.momswealthaccess.com Make a change, make a difference, for you and your family!
hi. i am suffering from depression and i am finding it hard to make and keep friends.we have recently moved here and i am feeling quiet isolated and lonely.does any one know of any groups or mums on line chat friendship sites for women in the same boat as me.??? i live in Hatfield area . please can you email me with any information. thank u
im pretty much in the same boat as you except i live in the city (which makes no difference socially!!) and im studying fulltime, have a toddler and am 20 weeks pregnant. I cant drive anywhere because me and my partner share a car and he works heaps. Financially it is a struggle to purchase a second. I cant get a job due to my distance ed. Fulltime study and the cost of daycare! And have just been diagnosed with anxiety and panic disorder. Now i have been put on valium for occasions when i truly need it but thats like once a month! Due to risks for baby. All my relatives work and have no time to bababysit (i dont think they want too really :s ). And i have absolutely no social life. Lost all my friends a long time ago due to my anxiety/panic which i never addressed.
Anywho, i dont know what to say, but your not alone!! And just a warning about being prepared to study . It is sooooo stressful with small children trying to study at home. Consider it if ur going to do distance education.
I just keep thinking, one day it will change.. One day
hope things are better for u since u wrote this in april!
Xx wish u well