I have been pro-abortion all of my life. but never would have thought of actually testing my beliefs personally.

i just found out last night that i am 4 weeks pregnant. i am currently 20 yrds and taking anti-depressants, anti-anxiety and anti-psychotics for multiple reasons such as manic depression agoraphobia, self mutilation, GAD, for just a few.
my decision has been to termintate the pregnancy. not only for my self but for my fiance (who is behind me 100%) and has two years of college to go untill he gets his degree.

my choice is not easy i have been upset and crying the entire time, but i am mentally unable to take care of a baby. i have been in the hospital many times this past year for failed suicide attempts and for the self mutulation. both me and my fiance is living with my parents and mooching off of them for food and even cash every now and again. we cannot even sustain a life for us let alone a baby.
why i did not choose adoption. if i am off my meds i get very depressed and suicidal. my anxiety peaks and i have many panic attacks. carrying the pregnancy to full term i dont doubt will kill me, and the child.
this is a decision that i have already made for my self, my soon to be husband and our children that we plan to have when we can support our selves. And very importantly when my depression anxiety and self mutilation is in better control. i am hurting my sister very much (only other soul that knows what i am doing) for she is strongly anti-abortion with 3 little ones of her own. yet i feel very confidant when she told me that she understands that my medical issues must be taken care of prior to having a child.

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so two days ago me and my sister got into a huge fight and it turned into a screaming match at the top of our lungs and were both pregnant…im 19 weeks pregnant and shes about 13 weeks pregnant..i just wanted to make sure that our babies are gonna be ok and wanted to know if that much yelling and stress could hurt our babies?

11 yrs. ago, a doctor told me I won’t be able to have kids. I just found out today that I’m 13 weeks pregnant. Now I’m EXTRA nervous because I keep constantly worrying, being afraid. Wondering, “What if I have a miscarriage?” How can I stop this irrational negative self-talk?

In my past I have had unprotected sex with 3 men that were not my husband. I just gave blood for my routine hiv test with pregnancy. I am so worried, I am healthy, but I know it can lay dormant in your system for a long time. Those of you who already had the test, were you really anxious and did it turn out okay?

I’m at the beginning of week 39 and we are still considering where to have our baby. I’m 29 years old, perfectly healthy, the baby is great too, weighs about 3 kilos and the pregnancy has so far been physiological with no problems whatsoever.
The dilemma is, we have 2 hospitals to choose from – one is a state hospital with a NICU but terrible conditions for the mothers – they actually still perform preventive episiotomies and women aren’t encouraged or allowed to give birth in any other position than the lithotomy (this is 21st century Slovakia)! I’m in depression just thinking about it
The other option is a state hospital in nearby Austria which is extremely baby- and mother-friendly, has great staff and they are willing to support me in every point of my birthplan. They are expensive almost beyond what we can afford (as I’m not insured in Austria, I’ll have to pay for everything) AND don’t have a NICU.
I feel that when I chose the medieval one, I’m doing the right thing for my baby, but I don’t know how big the risk is something goes wrong in this stage and he’ll actually need the NICU (it’s usually the premature babies who do, isn’t it?); on the other hand, I’m freaked out at the thought of the “treatment” I’ll get and the stress, pain and injury. If we choose Austria, I’ll feel irresponsible towards my baby, although the experience will undoubtedly be much more bearable for me and for him too (if everything goes allright).
What would you choose? Am Ia ctually putting the baby at real risk if I go to a hospital without a NICU? Or will the stress I’ll undoubtedly experience in the Slovak hospital be a sort of risk too? Thanks a lot for your opinions!
The transfer to an Austrian NICU and the care there would cost much (tens of thousands of dollars) and take long (it’s 50km).

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My newly married and youngest daughter is 6 weeks pregnant. I am unhappy because she lives 2000 miles away and I’ll have rare to no participation with them for this joyous event.
Her husband seems immature in that he makes his own family all-important in their lives, while heavily diminishing our participation and interest. His future plan is to permanently live close to his family, this being 3000 miles away from us.
My daughter and I have a sweet relationship, but she seems to be okay with prioritizing his family over our own. I am devastated that I’ll have no close relationship with my new grandbaby, as well as not to be near my own daughter during her pregnancy.
I want to be excited about the baby, but I know my son-in-law plans to involve his family more in the child’s life than in ours, so I’m not sure I can live with that kind of heartbreak!
I’ll be visiting them at Thanksgiving and want to be happy for my daughter. Your comments? How can I hide my real sadness?

What are the chances of getting postpartum depression?
If you’ve had clinical depression, what are the chances of getting postpartum depression, or depression during pregnancy?
Does postpartum depression ever require medication?
How long do the symptoms of PPD last, and how can it be prevented/ dealt with?
Thaanks!

Before I got pregnant, I was going through a very bad time of about 3 months. I was diagnosed with clinical depression and was taking anti depressants. At my lowest point I ended up in hospital after attempting to commit suicide.
Well I think me getting pregnant was my answer from God, and I am just so much better now. I stopped the medication as soon as I found out that I was pregnant and have been absolutely healthy during my pregnancy.
The thing is during the time I was depressed, a lot of my so called ‘friends’ left me to deal with things on my own. Now that I am pregnant, some of them haven’t even bothered to congratulate me.

It hurts, because I always stuck with them during their bad times, and I was always a really outgoing person so when depression struck, I really needed support, which from most of my friends I did not get.

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Hi everyone, it would be great if i could get some advice off any one who is currently or has gone true the following, basically me and my girlfriend are expecting our wonder full baby in 3 months (this was an unplanned pregnancy), and i love my girlfriend and we have being great together for the last 2 years, but recently over the last 5 weeks she has being very down and not herself and she seems to be acting as if she dosent care about me anymore, i have being helping out as much as possible cleaning the house helping out trying to get her to take it easy because i no its not easy for her or any girl who is pregnant, but she wants me to stop helping she wants to do everything herself i have gone to all doctor appointments and scans with her so i think that i am showing i am with her everystep of the way, she is also stopping me feeling the baby kick and that is really affecting me because thats the only bit of a connection that i can make with the baby, but she never stopped me up to recently, i tried talking to her saying that i feel we are drifting appart but she dosent seem to relize this whan i talk about it with her, i am hoping that it is just horemones and that it will soon pass but i am also worried incase it is prenatal depression because she was diagnosed with depression when she was younger, im in a very hard situation here i would be very greatfull if i could get any advice before things get worse,

Thanks Darren