Since the beginning of my 2nd trimester i have felt very sad and depressed. I don’t think about hurting myself or anything, just really sad. Like i don;t know what i am doing. How do i prepare for this baby? I am scared to talk to my doctor for fear that she would call social services or something. I had that happen before when i was a child, went to a therapist said i was depressed so they called social services. I have always suffered from depression since i hit puberty. but never medicated. I don’t know if its possible to have Post par tum depression while pregnant, or just my hormones. another reason i don’t want to talk to my doctor is that i was raised very old fashioned by my grandmother who taught me not to say anything about depression to anyone. Just deal with i. my question is, is it normal to feel depressed and lonely during pregnancy, even with a husband around to support you??

I’ll be honest here. I’ve suffered with depression on and off for over 10 years. I have been on medication up to 4 years ago. During the last 4 years, i’ve felt relief from depression and haven’t worried about it.
Now, i’m 9 weeks along and it started before becoming pregnant.. I know where it’s coming from. Since you don’t know me, I can be 100% honest. Its work: when I’m at work, thinking about work I’d rather die then face it. I have a WONDERFUL life outside of work. Before I found out I was expecting I was looking for something better. I’m so excited for the baby and my husbands and i’s start of a family!
I can promise you, I would NEVER kill myself, its just how horrible I’m feeling about it…..(when i was at my worse, I would have dying thoughts but I know I would never ever do that)
Anyways, is there any medication that a pregnant women can take for depression? Or prohaps what have you done with depression during pregnancy?
I have an appt with my doctor in 10 days (also get to see the baby on the ultrasound!!) so I do plan on talking to him about it.
Thank you

Hi girls (and guys)! This is going to be long, so please bare with me. I am currently 32w1d pregnant with my 2nd child (it’s a boy!). I had my daughter at only 18 and married her father. We did our best to make things work, but we just were not meant for each other so we have been divorced and seperated for a little over 2 years. I have been dating another man for 2 years now. We actually just got engaged in April. We talked about having kids in the future, but had an unexpected pregnancy instead (i was on the pill). While we were scared of what was to come, we both embraced it and enjoyed this entire pregnancy. He has come to every doctor’s appointment, every ultrasound, showed off our 3d ultrasounds more than I have, is always rubbing my belly, and sings happy birthday to the baby every week. What I am trying to say is he is very hands on and helpful.

Everything was fine until Tuesday. He decided to disappear for the night where he slept in a park just because he did not want to come home. I saw him the next day where he was at his family’s house and we talked for about an hour. He told me he wants to be in the baby’s life, but he can’t be with me anymore. He can’t be with anyone. I got no further explanation than that. He said there is nothing I can do to change his mind.

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Hi girls (and guys)! This is going to be long, so please bare with me. I am currently 32w1d pregnant with my 2nd child (it’s a boy!). I had my daughter at only 18 and married her father. We did our best to make things work, but we just were not meant for each other so we have been divorced and seperated for a little over 2 years. I have been dating another man for 2 years now. We actually just got engaged in April. We talked about having kids in the future, but had an unexpected pregnancy instead (i was on the pill). While we were scared of what was to come, we both embraced it and enjoyed this entire pregnancy. He has come to every doctor’s appointment, every ultrasound, showed off our 3d ultrasounds more than I have, is always rubbing my belly, and sings happy birthday to the baby every week. What I am trying to say is he is very hands on and helpful.

Everything was fine until Tuesday. He decided to disappear for the night where he slept in a park just because he did not want to come home. I saw him the next day where he was at his family’s house and we talked for about an hour. He told me he wants to be in the baby’s life, but he can’t be with me anymore. He can’t be with anyone. I got no further explanation than that. He said there is nothing I can do to change his mind.

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I’m 32 weeks w/ baby #1. I have GAD (general anxiety disorder) and was on meds for it 2 yrs ago then tried a couple different kinds late last year (unsuccessfully, so I stopped- didn’t like them/didn’t help like the pills I had a couple yrs ago). So I’m pregnant now and my anxiety seems to have worsened and I don’t want to take meds while still carrying… Yes, anxiety comes w/ pregnancy but it’s worse with GAD and really bothering me. I’m wondering about tips to manage my anxiety (no attacks, just small episodes that are coming more frequently) and ways to cope or settle down. Any input from experience?

I’m 6 weeks pregnant with my 4th baby. I have been suffering from anxiety and panic disorder for the past 6 months with no treatment. Gets worse during period times also. My pregnancy has been going well up to about a week ago. My anxiety is sooo much worse. Its making me dizzy and spaced out, palpitations often, feeling depressed and just feeling like myself. I was so happy and now I am a wreck! I’m not even happy to be pregnant anymore, I almost feel like keeping myself in the house all day and never going anywhere. I have 4 other kids to take care of. Im afraid I will not cope and will fall into a deeep depression and anxiety state. What do I do? Havent been to doc yet cause waiting for my insurance to kick in. What will happen if I tell him how im feeling? What treatment is available for me? I cant go on like this for 9 months!!! Hubby works long hours so hard for him to help me out!

My boyfriend and his brother purchased a house together almost 2 years ago. I began dating him since they moved in to the house. I am now 4 months pregnant and living with them both. We have had many problems and conflicts with his brother. He is almost 33, single and can not get a girlfriend. My boyfriend feels that he is stuck living in this house at the moment and feels like he can not leave his brother stuck. I am constantly depressed and feel horrible living in this house. I want more then anything to have a place where I can live with my baby and boyfriend alone and in peace. My boyfriend is different when his brother is around and we never have time or privacy for just the two of us. My boyfriend is almost 30 and I am almost 25. I am still in school and he feels that this isn’t a good time to move out. He says i need to finish school and he needs to grow his Business more. I have an apt that I never stay in because my boyfriend wants me to live with him. We live in the outskirts of a city in the country. My apt is further in the country then his house. Staying there alone does not make me feel any better. I do not know what to do… I feel like all the stress and lack of emotional and physical support from my boyfriend during this pregnancy is hurting me and the baby. He is more concerned with his work and family then with me and this child. Everyone says that once the baby is here he will change, but how can i be sure. His family support him and his brother in everything and have been the main ones to tell him that he can not move out and leave his brother. ( Since he is alone and single and has problems with depression) I have talked to my boyfriend many many many times but nothing changes. He doesn’t see anything wrong rather I am the one with the problem. ( that is what i am sure is parents make him believe) I didnt know what to do.. I am sad everyday and feel like he is not here for me the way I need him to be. When we lay in bed and i ask him to rub my back or massage me he says he is tired from working all day. And is usually falling asleep. I feel like i have no support and it just makes it 100 times worse the living situation and that I have no family or friends in this state. Advice would be great.. And if i sound emotional I am.. its a very difficult time…

My friend recently found out she was about 7 weeks pregnant. Her OB/GYN doc stopped all her anti-depressant medications. She is super depressed, but doc still says no anti-depressant medications. Her mother & her ex-husband (father of her older child) have died within the last 11 months. I try to encourage & go do fun female stuff with her but she just stays depressed. Are there any anti-depressant medications for pregnancy?

I have got to find out! i feel like i am boxed in and going crazy! right after i found out i was pregnant, i found out my mom had brain tumors that was caused by stage 4 lung cancer. they’ve told her last week she has a year give or take to live….i feel like i am going crazy, but trying to not break down knowing it wont help my mom….is there any kind of anxiety medication safe to use during pregnancy?

I have been suffering the worst depression for the last month. Its to the point where its affecting my marriage and job. I go to the doctor next week for my next prenatal appointment. Can my doctor prescribe me anything for it? Is there anything safe? And is it normal to suffer from depression?
Thanks!!