Ok, the question may be worded wrong! I’m 21 weeks pregnant with a little boy at age 19. The father and I were not in a relationship when I found out I was pregnant. We talked things over and he basically left the decision up to me. I never felt abortion was an option, and adoption isn’t what’s best for my son. I have tons of family support. Mind you, they don’t approve but its too late now type deal lol.

He is full Korean, he moved here (US) when he was 5. Once he told his parents, he quit talking to me (except for arguments at work, no I can’t keep my mouth shut when my child’s father is making smart a$$ remarks about me….) ANYWAY, they disowned him, and since then I have had no support or contact with him. He claims he’s waiting for Jamie to be born, as he has gone through this before and the baby wasn’t his. Did his parents disown him because I’m white, or because of the premarital sex/pregnancy?

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I’m 21 and I have been out of work and school and barely able to drive for the last 8 months for my panic disorder/ severe depression…I went to the hospital last night because
i felt really sick and found out I was 5 weeks 4 days pregnant..I had no idea because I was still having my menstrual..I’ve been on ativan for the last 8 months b/c I havent found a med for my panic/depress. and its keeping me somewhat stable until I found a med so I could get my life back..I’m so scared and idk what to do everyone saying I should get an abortion so I can get myself better but I really dont believe in that but I dont know what to do..I wouldnt be able to support the baby right now b/c im unable to work due to my severe panic and stuff..
i smoke and i’ve been taking ativan this whole time and didnt know I was pregnant and im worried its harmed the baby and I’ve been on it for 8 months and I know coming off of it causes seizures..any advice would be greatly appreciated..thx

I just found out I’m pregnant. I have 3 other children the youngest being 13 months. I don’t know how far along I am yet. I’m absolutly devastated cause I was on the pill and faithful about taking it. I’m trying to work through depression about it, I feel like it’s wrong to think ill of such a miracle. Have you felt this way and if so what helped you get through the anxiety? (serious responses only please)

I have been happily married for 6 yrs, we have 3 children, 13,9 and 4. I have found out today that i am pregnant!
I am the waiting list to be sterilized and we have been using condoms although a couple of weeks ago one split,.
I went straight to the doc the next morning and got the morning after pill, which obviously did not work.

The problem is I have had a very traumatic last 3 years and as a result was diagnosed with severe stress and depression. As a result I am on high strengh anti depressants. The doc wants me to phase these out if i decide to keep the baby. I have just been starting to get myself together, I enrolled at university this year which is going good, I also have a job with horses that i love. I had my first child at 14 so I now feel that I can finally do something to better myself.
But not if we have another baby.
My husband says he will support me whatever i want to do. I never thought i could go through with an abortion but financially at the moment we are rooked! I don’t even know how we would cope. Im so confused I NEVER thought i would be in this situation again.

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I am 23 yrs old and 8 weeks pregnant. I was pregnant at the age of 19 and after buying a book and accepting the fact that I was going to have a baby, I told my parents and boyfriend at the time and they talked me into abortion. They were SO against me having a child that I was going to get kicked out of the home I was living in, my car would be taken away (it was in my dad’s name although I payed) AND they refused to continue to pay for my College Education. I immediately felt an emptiness and deep regret and sorrow after the abortion and I was angry at my self for letting other people scare me into the termination of a life. I love children and I still haven’t fully forgiven my self for that. SO now I’m 23 just lost my job as a Medical Secretary 2 months ago and I am pregnant by a guy I have no strong feelings for (and no hope for a potential relationship or much emotional/ financial support) This was obviously not planned. I promised myself I wouldn’t have another abortion BUT I’m scared to death and need some advice. How hard will it be to be a single mother (who by the way suffers from depression)? I’m afraid that I will never be happy and accomplish anything significant in my life. Being a good mother would require a lot more strength and responsibility than I’ve had, ever. I know I’ll regret termination but for some reason I am considering it because I’m not confident that I’ll be able to have a good life w my child. I don’t even have a job right now and wanted to finish my degree (dropped out of college 3 yrs ago). How can I make a decision and move forward happily? I’m afraid to make the wrong choice and be stuck in irreversible, perpetual unhappiness.

Ok, the question may be worded wrong! I’m 21 weeks pregnant with a little boy at age 19 (I’m white). The father and I were not in a relationship when I found out I was pregnant. We talked things over and he basically left the decision up to me. I never felt abortion was an option, and adoption isn’t what’s best for my son. I have tons of family support. Mind you, they don’t approve but its too late now type deal lol.

He is full Korean, he moved here (US) when he was 5. Once he told his parents, he quit talking to me (except for arguments at work, no I can’t keep my mouth shut when my child’s father is making smart a$$ remarks about me….) ANYWAY, they disowned him, and since then I have had no support or contact with him. He claims he’s waiting for Jamie to be born, as he has gone through this before and the baby wasn’t his. Did his parents disown him because I’m white, or because of the premarital sex/pregnancy?

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Do you think there are more mothers who have developed post natal depression after an unplanned pregnancy compared to mothers who develop the illness after planned pregnancy?

I have always wondered…..

My eldest child is age 3 and my youngest just turned 1 and i developed post natal depression after both of my children. They were both unplanned.

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