What is the best way to deal with depression due to pregnacy loss?
About a month ago (my birthday as a matter of fact) I went into the hospital with a tubal pregnancy. Needless to say I was in surgery immediatly and hospitalized for 3 days. I was not allowed to return to work for a month. I had no idea I was even pregnant, and I had mixed feelings at the time. I have a steady boyfriend who I have lived with for over a year, I am 27, and sometimes I really want to have a baby and sometimes I think it’s best to wait. I have no other kids but I am a sort of step mother to my boyfriend’s 7 year old. I am happy with my life but ever since this has happened I have been dealing with feelings of loss secretly. I lost my mom in Dec 2003, and this has also brought back sadness of that as well. I just wish I could snap back out of this funk and go on with living.
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seek some counseling with others that are in the same situation
need some professional help and to talk about it with your husband and sisters and female friends
hunny the best way to deal with a loss like this is time i hate to say but time and prayer is the only thing that will truly get you through what you are going through i hated that response when i was in you shoes but as it turned out it was the truth just remember sweety EVERYTHING happens for a reason
God Bless
As someone that gives out bogus answers in here cause most questions are stupid…. PLEASE SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP! This place CAN contain good info but nothing replaces a good mental health professional. Go for it girl, nothing wrong with consulting!
Sorry for your losses.
EDIT: Prayer helps, so does a good hug when you need it. See a professional. If you are a religous person, religion CAN be part of the solution but it WILL NOT solve everything!! Be realistic, look at the world god left us with…
You need to go to your family doctor. Depression is nothing to be embarrassed about. I have delt with it for several years. There are new and improved medications that the doctor may prescribe to you along with recommending some type of therapy or counseling.
I’m so sorry. Talk to your friends and your boyfriend about it, and I would suggest counseling. Not because you have any like, fundamental problems, but you can talk to a conselor without worrying about what she thinks of you or having to deal with her feelings too (like you will with your boyfriend and friends, who can possibly get tired of the issue)
I can honestly say I know how you feel. I lost my son due to anencephaly in June of 2005. I was only 16 weeks but I had to deliver him and it took me 3 days to have him. It is a very hard thing to deal with and I am still suffering from it. I have panic attacks and I went into ppd. Its been almost a year now and I still cant sleep in my bedroom cause every time I close my eyes I see his babybed. I tried to get pregnant for 2 years before I ever concieved him, I wanted a baby so bad but now I want one and I am just so scared that I cant even think about it. It sucks to have these kind of feelings. If you ever want to chat my im is chelleluvkevin. Well good luck!
I think one of the best remedies is to get prenant again as soon as it is healthy for you to do so….the happiness that a child will bring you will erase a lot of your pain…in any event realise that sometimes things happen and you are not at fault in any way.
Although I don’t have the answer you want … I can relate with your feelings. I don’t know if just knowing that you are not alone in this helps or not. I went through almost the same exact situation about 6 months ago and it brought back all kinds of feelings of lose and sadness. I am sorry that you are having these feelings and hope you can learn to cope in some way. I still just push all of my hurt to the back of my mind…some days I am kinda ok and other days I cry at the drop of a hat–I guess its just something you have to carry with you for the rest of your life. Once again i am sorry and wish you the best. I am 31 years old myself with no other children-but hang in there and hopefully things will look up for us both.
let me tell you something i lost a baby but i was three months pregnant and their is nothing in the world anyone can say. even if someone did try and tell me something i didnt care i always said you dont know what iam going through and leave me alone but if you dont talk about u stress more because its inside of you. let it out. trust me if you really want to get pregnant just keep trying. i dont know if your doctor told you but its best if you wait atleast a year for your ovaries to recover.you’ll be pregnant sooner or later. take care…
you will feel depressed and sad its natural. It was only a month ago – hopefully you will be feeling better soon. my sons wife lost a baby about 18 months ago and was very depressed – she saw the doctor and went to therapy and took anti-depressants.
I think if it may be best for you to chat to your doctor and see what he says and then if you are not feeling better soon, maybe he will put you on medication or advise therapy/counseling
chat to your mum and partner about it – it does help to talk!
by the way my son and his wife are expecting a baby in August and she is very happy now! hope you will be again soon too.
get therapy
check with a planned pregnancy clinic in your area or with your doctor there are support groups that can be really helpful