Why are women treated like dirt for their pregnancies and/or abortions?
If people see a young girl with a baby…they look at her with disdain…or ridicule. I always thought that was funny..because her OTHER option is abortion..and if she goes through with that..what has she accomplished? Living in misery with her shame, not being able to tell ANYONE, having people bash her for that?
Then there are other women in general who are completely RIPPED apart about their pregnancies or abortions. As if it’s NOT bad enough being a woman without being pregnant…now..we hold the blame for pregnancy and ANY decision regarding it….yet SOOOOOO many women I know are abused and exploited…they are pressured into an abortion and violated in the WORST WAY POSSIBLE. No one lends them a hand when they need the support. It’s not enough to say “She should have been strong…things will work out…adoption…etc.”. I don’t think some people understand how mentally vulnerable you are when you are pregnant…I know….It was AMAZING how vulnerable I was…looking back on it..I couldn’t believe how weak I was…it’s SCARY..especially when you don’t have ANY support AND someone pressuring you. I have seen the strongest women taken advantage of. By family…men…clinics…etc. But what makes it the absolute WORST is that the people who bash women are…OTHER WOMEN. How sad is this? It breaks my heart. Women go through SO much & we waste our time being hateful and hypocritical.
It’s easier to get an abortion here..than it is to get birth control. I CAN ATTEST TO THIS! We live in an “advanced” country..but birth control is not cheap or easily accessible the way it should be. And NOT all women can use hormones..I cannot 
..I have tried everything under the moon to be responsible. Condoms also have a nasty effect on me. However, of all the women I know that had abortions, or fell pregnant on accident, about HALF were actually using contraceptives.
If anyone knows what I am talking about..you can back me up. I have completely DESTROYED my body trying different methods of NOT getting pregnant…and in the process ruined my sex drive…so that’s a lot of use right? I’ve developed HORRID depression, acne, etc. My doc told me I have PCOS. I have NEVER had symptoms like this until birth control. It’s SO sad that we have to go through this hell and be judged so terribly. We are expected to do EVERYTHING men do…in such a short time…while being a mother, wife, pregnant mom, etc.
Just something to think about….am I the only one who realizes this? I’m not even a feminist or anything..I just realized it’s 2010 and this is how behind we are still.
True Jill..it just scares me because I would think…half will be judgmental..half will not..but it seems more like 95% are judgmental..and the other 5% are not. Many judgmental women I know..I have come to find..actually had not one, but MORE than one, abortions themselves…but yet they are so hateful to these pregnant women. It totally baffles me. I don’t expect men to lift us up..but I know how hard it is to be a female and could never understand the women who bring us all down.
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i think you’re absolutely right.
There are always going to be judgemental, holier-than-thou people in the world who will look down on other people – for whatever reason. You can’t let those people affect you because they are not part of your life. Go on with your life raising your child, or deal with your abortion (and don’t tell people who don’t need to know about it!) You can’t live your life worrying about how other people are going to look at you.
Great generalization there! Not everyone does that.
who cares.. are you seriously inquiring into this debate or are you trying to get attention?? if you want attention, go down to your local bar tonight dressed in almost nothing. Find the nearest dirtball and let him take you for a roll in the hay.
I totally agree with you, and it’s bloody tragic in my opinion. Forget about men not being supportive, other women are our worst enemies. I don’t know why we can’t live and let live…just support each other for whatever choices we have to make, and stop beating each other up for having a different opinion. Whether the issue is abortion, pregnancy, formula versus breast, CIO versus AP…doesn’t matter what you believe, there’s always someone out there who’s rude and arrogant enough to denigrate you for your legitimate choice. Just because you don’t agree, doesn’t give you the right to be offensive or nasty or judgemental. People can still offer an alternative opinion while still respecting other people’s rights to THEIR opinion.
Makes me really really sad, especially when I think of everything my daughters are going to have to go through.
I agree with some of your points, but I judge the women of all ages who have more then one baby and are living off the system. They have no wish of ever being off the system, and they are ruining our economy. This has become a crutch for them not to work, go to school, etc. I’m a young mother. I work, go to school ft, pay for my daughters insurance/necessities, and am pregnant with our second. I have suceeded as a mother and that’s all that matters. I do feel judged being a young mom, but I am not living off the system. So I really don’t care what others have to say. I think those women have given the rest of us a bad name. Also there is a lot of support in places such as church, school, counselors, etc. You seem like a strong girl, so don’t be a victim of ignorant judgment because it doesn’t matter if you are doing what’s right.
her smartest option would be NOT to get pregnant in the first place
I get so tired of every too big for their britches high school kid thinking they are a grown up ready to be a mother. They shouldn’t be having unprotected sex in the first place and they wouldn’t find themselves in this situation. People are looking at them because they are shocked that a person so young would be in that position in the first place. You reap what you sow and should be prepared for it!
Awesome rant. I agree.
It is sad that this happens. Unfortunately, the reality is that there will never EVER be a scenario where EVERYONE in the world agrees. Every situation needs to be looked at on an individual basis and judged based on that. You shouldn’t judge someone without knowing all the details, but people do it anyway.
I spent 10 years on every kind of birth control there is until I finally gave up and started using herbal contraception – much easier on my body and had a much lower failure rate (for me at least).
Doctors *never* tell you about the side effects – the weight gain, the mood swings, the lack of a sex drive (my husband was real happy about that side effect), the panic attacks, the depression, my hair loss – I could go on and on about the side effects.
Many women are very judgmental about their opinions when it comes to birth control, abortion and personal family planning. As if their opinions belong in *my* marriage. Those decisions belong to my husband and I – no one else!
I wish they would follow the adage every mum told their kids, “If you don’t have something nice to say, do not say anythign at all.” Yet anonymity of being on a computer lets all their judgmental, spite and misinformation gush out.
My sexuality and reproduction are NOT up for public scrutiny and opinion-spouting!
Not your gonads? Then you DO NOT get an opinion! ! !
~Pro-Choice Momma; Have had an abortion and I have a 15 month old daughter . I believe in protecting my daughter’s choice.
Abortion: There is a Consensus
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